How to Spot a Liar

Let's face it everyone lies, but in certain circumstances someone lies can lead to a lot of emotional distress for example a cheating spouse, or a child up to no good. Liar's are a dime a dozen and some are so good at it that they make a living out if, think the professional used car sales man! Not to say all used car sales man are liars, but we have all heard the horror stories.

Trusting your gut. Our basic instincts usually are right and we need to learn to trust them sometimes. But there are instances when you need to learn not to trust your basic instincts, for example when you have insecurities or fears. These insecurities and fears can lead you to an altered thought process which screws up your gut instincts leading you to believe the worse. Next time you hear "What's your gut telling you" or "Trust your gut" you will know to take a step back and look for other ways to differentiate if you're being lied too.

Body language is a huge indicator of liars. If you are noticing basic changes to the person's movement this may be an indication someone is lying. For example if your partner, friend of associate starts to fidget or moves various parts of the body (arms, hands, head) or begins to shift their gaze away from yours. You may start to wonder what they are hiding. These body movements are all indications of deceit.

Most people who are lying will avoid your eye contact. Because usually guilt is shown in the eyes, the person will purposely try not to hold eye contact with you. You may notice these signs of fear or guilt in your partner eyes, if you feel you are being lied to its import to ensure you make eye contact and watch for this reaction.

When you're genuinely happy to tell someone something you move around in an excited way and keep eye contact. These are normal actions of someone telling someone else the truth. When lies are present, distance is made and the body tenses up and eye contact is diminished if not avoided all together. When someone lies there body movement is not natural, it's because they are thinking while they lie.

Others clues to a liar are clearing the throat, constant touching of their own bodies and saying "Umm". When someone says "Umm" they are giving themselves time to think of the next thing to say. So the next time body language is altered, you hear throat clearing or a lot of "Umm's" it may be time to ask yourself if you are being lied too.

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Truth About Deception: Nonverbal Signs of Lying

Bliafoo: How to Detect Lies