How to Spot a Manipulative Woman

There are certain types of women who give the rest a bad name. The type who make loving, trustworthy, respectable women cringe at their very existence. One of the worst offenders is the manipulative woman. They sneak up on unsuspecting or naïve men and before they know what's happened, they're married with twins on the way! Of course, this is an extreme example. Not all men will fall for such tricks. But that is the problem with manipulative women. You never spot their true agenda until it's too late, but there are some warning signs which may give them away.

How To Spot a Manipulative Woman

1. She always plays the victim

A manipulative woman will play the victim all the time because it makes her look vulnerable. Men are suckers for women they can protect and that is often the way she reels them in. If someone is mean to her, she will always swear up and down that she never did anything to deserve it. If she dislikes your friends, she will seek to pick them off by finding their weak spot and playing on it until they snap. Don't be fooled by her doe-eyed looks. If your friend and your girlfriend don't get along, keep them apart. If she is genuine, she will accept that she cannot control who you are friends with.

2. She lies

A woman who is good at being manipulative will also be a skilled liar. The problem with liars is that they always get caught out eventually - but that can take a long time. The reason manipulative women often get away with lying is because they have enough charm and allure to wind men around their little finger. They will also always have a quick excuse to hand. A woman who tells the occasional white lie is not one to worry about. But if your woman has lied about past relationships or friends, you should put your guard up.

3. She changes your thought processes

This is a classic sign of a manipulative woman. She will never say anything as blatant as, "I think your friend Steve is a womanising lowlife," - that would be too easy. Instead she will drop very small hints. So tiny you won't even notice them at first. It's when you catch yourself parroting her words that you should start to be concerned.

4. Nobody likes her

Big hint. If more than one person tells you she is a manipulative woman, they are not saying it to hurt you. Depending on the kind of family you are from, they may keep quiet and mind their own business. On the other hand, if they are good at speaking their minds and are getting bad vibes from her, they will let you know. You should never let anyone dictate your decisions, but keep in mind your family will rarely have an ulterior motive for saying such things other than your happiness. A manipulative woman will probably attempt trick number one and suggest they are ganging up on her. A genuine woman will not usually trigger warning signals in the first place.

5. Her actions don't back up her words

Has she said things like, "I don't want to rush to move in together" or, "I don't want to have children for at least five years," and yet she is rearranging your furniture and has a book of baby names by the bed? Your bed! If so, she is probably not being entirely honest about what she wants. If she doesn't want to move in with you, she should respect your right to have your house/apartment arranged as you want it. Likewise, make sure you always use contraceptives if you don't trust that she is doing so (though you should always do this in a new relationship anyway!).

The manipulative woman is very careful not to be discovered. She will use every trick she knows to keep you, and to make you believe that everyone else is bullying her. Listen to the people you have known the longest because ultimately, they will be the ones you need when her true colours shine through.