How to Stay Friends After a Break Up

Being in a relationship that does not work can be stifling. It drains you emotionally and mentally to put up a smiling face each day and reenact the farce all because you are too chicken to tell your partner that you no longer are feeling comfy being with them. You might be worried about hurting their feelings or of them suffering a nervous breakdown or a heart attack. You might also be worried that they might turn violent and the whole exercise of trying to break up might result in serious personal injuries to you and in considerable property damage.

Owing to these factors, people tend to keep mum about their separatist feelings and rot in their personal hell until one fine day all hell breaks loose and the relationship falls apart on an ugly note. The parties might not even be on speaking terms after the break up and it would take a long time for the wounds to heal and the scars to fade and for them to mellow towards each other.

All this can be avoided with a little communication and openness. The following guidelines might help to part ways with your partner amicably at any time when you feel that the relationship needs to be ended because it is going nowhere of because the fire has burnt out.

1. The key to end a relationship amicably lies in presenting the horrible truth in an understanding manner. Sometimes the root cause for the failure of a relationship could be a lack of communication in the first place. Communicating your disinterest in continuing the relationship has to be done in a mature manner. Of course this calls for emotional maturity and understanding to be displayed by your partner as well. If you have a psycho of a partner who would rather break your bones or gouge your eyes out then this approach would fail.

2. Letting them know that you are unhappy and asking their opinion on how to mend it can be helpful. It imparts the understanding that although you are unhappy, you are willing to give it another shot to see if it works. If after an analysis of the situation, the reasons for breaking up weigh heavily against continuing with it, then it is obvious that there is no point going ahead and hopefully your partner should get the idea.

3. If your partner has ego problems and considers themselves un-dump-able then it is better to ask them to dump you instead so that you can get out of the relationship.

4. If you are convinced that your partner is psychotic and would in no way understand the point you are trying to put across it is best to lie and fib and manipulate your way out of the relationship rather than confronting them with the truth. Such lying and manipulating should make them feel so unappreciative of you that they themselves eventually want to break up with you.

5. Occasionally the reason for break up might be your falling for someone else or being in another affair. In such circumstances the choice lies with you either in telling them that you love someone else or in cooking up some other story that is not so hurtful.