How to Stop Kids from Arguing with Parents

Kids sometimes try to argue with parents in an effort to get what they want, and unfortunately some parents give in. It's normal for kids to argue in an attempt to try and get what they want, but it's how parents handle this type of behavior that either puts a stop to the arguing or sets the stage for future conflicts. After a parent says no, what else can a kid do? Arguing is a last ditch effort to get parents to change their minds, and some kids have learned exactly how to convince their parents to give in.

Remain Consistent

When kids attempt to argue with parents every single time they don't like the answer they receive, this is often because quarreling has worked in the past. Some figure if they argue enough their parent or parents will change their mind. All it takes is one time for parents to break down and give in, and kids will continue arguing in the hopes it will work again.

To put a stop to quarreling, it's important to stick by your initial decision and not give in. Even very young kids are smarter than parents sometimes give them credit for, and they'll remember that arguing worked. If they know you won't give in, they won't bother arguing, and if they realize consequences exist for continuing to argue, they won't take a chance.

An Answer That Will Stop the Arguing

When a child is attempting to argue about a decision made by parents, the best answer that can be given is, I'm not going to change my mind. This will remove all hope, all doubt, and nothing more will need to be said. Don't wait to say those seven little words. Saying this right after the first attempt at arguing will end the argument before it ever begins.

Consequences for Arguing

Kids who choose to argue when parents make a yes or no decision should realize they'll have to face consequences if they can't take no for an answer. The consequences you choose are up to you as a parent because you know what type of punishment will make the biggest impact. Just keep in mind, the punishment should fit the crime. For example, if a child is arguing about not being able to go skateboarding for whatever reason, consider taking away the skateboard the following day. If a child is arguing about bedtime, inform them that bedtime will be a half hour earlier the next night.

Once kids realize that arguing isn't acceptable, and once they realize they'll face definite consequences for arguing, they'll begin to accept the decisions made by parents. They may not like those decisions, but they have to learn they won't be able to do everything they want when they want - even as adults. It's important to make them realize that everyone in the family will be happier if arguing isn't a continual issue.