How to Succeed with Women at Night Clubs

Night clubs are a unique environment unto themselves. The rules are a little different in night clubs than they are for meeting women out in the general public. For one thing, every woman's guard is up at the club. Don't get me wrong, many of them are there to meet men. However, they are there to meet the men whom they find desirable, and to reject the undesirable males. While women do dress up for a large reason to impress other women around them, obviously dressing that way will attract male attention too.

Having said that, women are generally less inhibited when they are at the club. Once they meet a man whom they are interested in they are more likely to speed things further along. This brings up other issues including the problems of drugs or alcohol. Some women may be highly intoxicated and are best to be avoided. If you have a one night stand with a heavily intoxicated woman, she may file claims when she sobers up.

Therefore, avoid women who are already drunk, and avoid women who repeatedly ask you to buy them drinks. You are not there to give charity to women. Only men with low self-esteem let women use them for drinks and money. You are confident in yourself enough to know that you do not have to bribe women into liking you.

Before you can start approaching women at clubs you will have first have to determine which women are not worth your time. For example, when it appears that a woman's approach is too good to be true it probably is. Just as women have their radar up to decipher males who are not genuine, you should have yours up to spot females who are not showing their real motives. Teases, male or female, constantly seek attention because they have deep seated insecurities. They need attention to justify that they have worth and significance in this world. On the other hand, people who are not insecure do not need to seek out external proof of their worthiness. So, do not waste your time looking at the women who are dancing on the tables. Instead focus on meeting women who will actually be open to their approach.

There are a number of ways to get the ball rolling with women at clubs. You can get introduced though friends or you can make the initial contact yourself. The best way to make contact with women is through the latter method. When you get up the nerve to break apart from your friends and approach a woman, you show women that you have an unyielding confidence in yourself. It shows that you do not need a crutch to help you get into her life.

However, there will be times when it is completely fine to be introduced through friends. It is unavoidable that your friends will inevitably make contact with a group of women, and this is a scenario where you will want your friends to help you in on the action. This is where friends can play a big difference in whether you succeed or fail with women. Often times women judge men by the friends they keep. If your friends are smooth polished professionals, then women are much more likely to think you are that type of person. If your friends are obnoxious and unpolished, women will be likely to think that you share similar attributes.

Of course your friends are your friends and the priority of meeting women may not be worth breaking certain friendships. The point is to make sure that your group of friends is on the same page. Every man should be at his best.
For the most part women travel to clubs in packs. Rarely will a woman travel to the club by herself. There is a lot you can learn from how women interact with their friends at the club. If they are so involved with each other that they appear to be making a virtual wall around them then it is a sure sign that they are not there to meet men. If the women, once they get to the club, separate from each other, then it is much more likely that they are out to get involved with new people, especially men. Therefore, if you see a woman going off on her own then she is a hot prospect for your approach.

Unfortunately alcohol is a big component of the club scene. It is alcohol which has destroyed more men's chances with women than any other factor. Think about it through a female's perspective. If you were a young attractive woman and all of the sudden a man starts slurring his speech and breathing alcohol breath into your face, how would you feel? Every weekend millions of men go out to clubs and drink a few beers thinking it will loosen them up or enhance their image with women. Chances are you have never heard a woman say that her fantasy is to be hit on by a drunk man?

Fortunately, this is where you will come in on top. This is where you will set yourself apart from the male competition in a meaningful way. When you go to the club, limit yourself to the equivalent of one beer, or simply do not drink any alcoholic beverages at all. Even though just two beers will make you feel like you are relaxed and in charge, it has been proven that even that small amount of alcohol can lower one's reaction speed, reduce one's ability at solving complex problems, and distort one's perception of reality.

The most powerful thing you can do is to imagine yourself in their shoes. Imagine yourself as a woman standing there with an unlimited amount of men from whom you can choose from. A great majority of the men will have had at least the equivalent of a few beers. However, there will be a few men who seem to move better, think quicker, and appear to have more stature than all of the other men at the club. Men who possess these traits appear to be the alpha males of the group. It is no secret that the men who I am referring to are the sober men at the club.

The trick is to take advantage of opportunities that other men pass up. You do not even have to wait until you get into the club to meet women. You can start making your approach while you are outside the club or while you are line to get in. At the end of the night you can hang out by the exit so women have to walk past you before they leave. You will be in the spots where women will have to congregate. You can also hang out fairly close but not too close to the women's bathroom, so women will be forced to walk by you once again. Each time they get in your periphery they will become more comfortable around you. Each experience they have with you the more they will warm to you and put their guard down. This is the time when you can make your approach.

One thing to remember when you are at a club or party is to keep moving. You will have to move around the room if you want to open yourself to meeting as many women as possible. Of course this comes with one caveat. You do not want other women in the room to see you approaching other women. Try to balance your visibility with a low profile because women do not want to feel like second best. Therefore, remain inconspicuous in your moves.