How to Be a SUPER Sleuth in Surprising Your Wife

Last article, I offered tips on what not to do when attempting to surprise your wife. This leaves many men wondering, what do I do then? After reading the last article, it may seem that surprising your wife is an impossible feat. However, if you read this article, you will have hope!

Here are some basic survival tips to help keep your secret alive. Some of the tips are not so obvious. The trick with your wife is to be the super sleuth behind the sleuth. She may be a sleuth, so you will need to be a super sleuth.

(Note: If you have a wife who purposely looks in closets, and goes out of her way to find out what your surprise is, this article may not help you as much as a woman who isn't trying to spy. Also a wife that is trying to find out your gifts is either really curious, or may need you to build trust. Perhaps she is concerned if you have lied to her in the past, or she had an important person in her life lie to her a lot. In this case, you may still surprise her, but if she asks ANY questions, it may be best for your marriage if you come out with the 100% uncomprimising truth. Sure, it will ruin the surprise, but the trust you will gain is well worth it. The tips I am providing in both articles are for those in loving, trusting relationships whose wife is wishing she could have a surprise and attempting not to figure out her husbands surprises. However, her intuitive nature sometimes makes it hard for her not to use deductive reasoning. She needs deductive reasoning to raise children, and therefore often automatically uses it for other areas in her life she wishes she wouldn't. Yes, your wife DOES make it hard for you. It is not your imagination.)

1. You may shop with your wife in a mall. As long as your wife thinks you are simply having a fun time at the mall with her, you may go to another location within a mall. (Note: Read the article I wrote prior to this to ensure that you don't violate any of the rules on what not to do if you decide to take her to a mall.) One exception: Guys - if you are engaged and you are planning to buy her a WEDDING ring (assuming she wants to be surprised), DO NOT Take her with you to the mall to pick it out . This is the one area that all woman have extreme curiousity, "when will my man purpose?". Please read my upcoming article, "When will my man purpose?" for tips on what an engaged man should not do.

2. Know what you want before you get to a store OR shop during a time she will not suspect you are there. (Great times are: Your lunch hour (if you don't normally see her), times you would normally be at work or she would be at work)

3. Tell her as much information about what you are up to as you can as long as it is not about the surprise. If you give her a lot of truthful information, she will be less suspicious.

4. Ask her girlfriend (one that is good at keeping a secret) to find out what your wife likes and get back to you. A very sly wife's girlfriend (or mother who is on good terms with her daughter) can be an asset to a husband creating a surprise event. Here is how to go about this,

Weeks before the event (perhaps months).....ask your wife, "Is there a girlfriend you have that is good at keeping a secret?"

If she asks why, "You can say, well just in case I need some help planning a surprise for you someday, who would I choose."

Then ask, "Is there a girlfriend really good at gathering information from people in a secretive manner?"

Again, if she asks why you can tell her.

USE the information she gives you at a LATER date....A MUCH Later date.

5. Plan a Sitter in Advance.

6. If you want, go ahead and give her clues around the date that won't lead her to the actual surprise. These false clues will get her off the trail. Caution: If you do this, be sure you are creating a pretend surprise that is a lot less exciting and romantic than the actual one.

7. Plan in detail. Plan every aspect of the surprise for an evening that is really romantic.

8. Go ahead, Ask her! Ask her what she likes, but ask her months or perhaps years from the planned date. She will not remember what she told you and she will be thrilled you know her so well. If you have to write it down in a secret notebook (when she is not around). Then as long as this notebook is somewhere she won't look or doesn't know about you are safe. If you have a wife who doesn't snoop, you can tell her you have a notebook (and show her what it looks like). But to be nice to her, try to hide it. This way if she finds it, she won't read it, and she can ask you to re-hide it.

9. Plan something she won't expect. You can take a surprise trip (with all the details arrange) and whisk her away to a romantic location for a Friday night. If you are arranging time off with her boss, either ask her to do it OR ask her if you can do this in advance. A surprise adventure always helps create romance.

10. Go Ahead, ask some friends. Start doing a survey with women or her girlfriends about what is romantic and what is not. Go ahead, do it in FRONT of her. She will be thrilled you are planning a surprise, she will be thrilled you asked her girlfriends, her girlfriends will admire you (to her is likely to be very romantic), you are taking initiative, it will create suspense, every woman in the room will think you are the most romantic man of all time, it will likely lead into a valuable one on one conversation with your spouse about what she likes and you will gain some valuable tips. If you do ask her girlfriends, be sure to use some of their tips (at least your wife's favorites). Otherwise, what good is it to gather tips? (Obviously if she doesn't like any of the tips her friends give, don't use them. )

Well, those are some super sleuth techniques. Enjoy!