How to Be Supportive During a Spouse's Breast Reduction Surgery

Men tend to view the female form with an eye toward certain attributes. Women with large breasts are generally considered to be "hot" by today's standards. Let's be honest guys, what is often the first thing you notice about a woman? How many of you notice the color of her eyes? Can't remember? You're not alone. A lot of us have an infantile bias. We often find ourselves looking a woman straight in the boobs.

First of all, that is quite demeaning for most women, (although I have no doubt there are a small percentage of women who enjoy it, sort of the "if you've got em' flaunt em" attitude.) Most women would rather you look them in the eyes when you speak to them. Something else men fail to take into account is that big breasts are heavy. Try carrying them around for a couple of days, and you might have a different opinion of the big breasts. Get yourself a bra, and put two cantaloupes in it. Strap it on, and wear it for 18 hours. Now imagine doing that every day of your life.

My wife had been a 34 B cup until she had her second child. Her breasts ballooned (if you will forgive the expression) to 40DD. I will admit that when we first got together I did like the fact that she was well endowed. However I soon learned that she was not exactly thrilled about it. After being married for several years, she began to talk about the possibility of having breast reduction surgery.

For some women a breast reduction is a matter of feeling good about their bodies. For others like my wife, it's that plus the fact that carrying around large breasts is damaging to her health. The positive change in body image will be an added bonus for my wife.

She has Lupus, and Fibromyalgia. The weight of her breasts is causing back, shoulder and neck pain. She nearly always has to wear a bra, because not wearing one makes it worse. While we are on the subject of bras, let me tell you sometime finding one that fits and is comfortable, is often difficult at best.

This past February, she bought herself a nice new dress to wear to a dinner. The dress was backless, and she had not realized that finding a size 40DD strapless bra was going to be a major task. We had to go all over town to find one that would work. That was just for one dress. She had been wearing a particular brand of bra for several years that had gel straps that helped keep the strap from digging into her shoulders. The company stopped making them. We finally found a bra online that she is reasonable comfortable with, but it doesn't help with the weight.

The bottom line is that she decided to have the surgery. It has not been scheduled yet, but we have found a surgeon, and now have to wait for approval from our HMO, That is another story.

The point I am trying to make here, is that no matter how great you think she looks in a bikini, or out of one, guys, it is her body, and she has to be happy with it. You are just the admirer. Get over yourself, and support her. She is not getting breast reduction surgery to emasculate you or anything that has to do with you. She is doing it so she can be comfortable in her own skin.
When a woman begins seeing a resemblance between her breasts and a cow's udders, it's time for you to realize that she will be much happier with smaller breasts. Ultimately if you show your support, so will you.