How to Make Sure that Your Actions Influence Your Children

You're the number one role model in the eyes of your children. Every action you take is observed by your children whether you realize it or not. Your mood is also registered by them the moment you get up in the morning. Now everything has been evaluated for the day's activities.

Then your patience is lost, and you begin to cry when you carry in another stack of bills from the mailbox. You smile a little as your husband gives you reassurance that everything is okay. Now you notice that your child has just been watching all of this from across the room, and you see the look on their face as tears begin to form in their eyes.

This is just a scenario of emotions which occurs in many homes today. Worries about the future, and the cost of providing for a family today is very demanding. But, the purpose of being a good parent is about being emotionally stable, and setting good examples for your children. From the moment the child is brought home from the hospital, you are the number one influence of your child's life.

Setting the Pattern

From a very young age children pattern their lives after us. They act and react to our emotions and habits sometimes like a mirror image. The best time to make a lasting impression on them is right from the beginning. Children are just like sponges: soaking in everything they can. Their brains are growing quicker now than any other time of their lives, so now's the time for some good parental influence.

From the moment eye contact is made, the young child watches your face as your emotions change. You smile: they watch, and then they smile, the connection is there. From this moment on, every action you make is being registered into their little minds, storing it away somewhere for future reference.

Within a couple of years they're now repeating what you say and also watching you like a hawk. Your emotions are anticipated, and your reactions are expected now. Children learn to react very quickly from our emotions and actions.

Commitment

Keep the meals and the bedtimes on a regular basis.This teaches them a sense of responsibility, as they begin to learn what's expected of them. Children begin to settle into a routine when they learn the meaning of commitment. Good habits are now being set into their minds, which will help them in their future decisions. This emotion is most crucial for the development of their young impressionable minds

Show your children early the concept of sharing with others. As your children watch you share with others, most of the time they repeat this virtue. This teaches your growing child how to share and live with society later on in life.

The ability to live as a good family unit is very important for their mental outlook on life. If they end up having a bad childhood it might take them many years to overcome; if ever. Stick to your basic morals and standards; do not divert from these.

Your Morals

These morals and standards are the building blocks for the child's future. As they watch you stick to your morals also they usually follow in suit, repeating what they see. If they have been raised this way they may falter at times, but their heart is in the right place. Usually what is learned as a young child sinks deep into the soul.

Stand by your children when they need you; this is most important to their emotional stability. If they've left the home this doesn't mean that your job is over. This is just another stage of their development.

Most likely your child will end up raising its children just like they were raised. By watching your actions in life, your children will now more than likely raise your grandchildren the way they were raised. Cause and effect; with everything affecting something else. Just like a tiny ripple running through the still waters of life.