How to Tell Your Fiance that You Are Postponing Your Wedding

Mrs. Renee
There are some people who fear cancelling or postponing their wedding, simply because they are afraid of what other people may think. If however you have started to learn something or see things in the individual that make you doubt whether or not you want to spend forever with this person then why not postpone the wedding. Of course you are not saying that you will never marry them just that you need a little more time to see if this is something that you really want.

Obviously when you get ready to tell your fiancé it should be in private. The one thing you don't want is for anyone to know the exact details of your relationship. Remember that postponing your wedding is your decision and that of your fiancé. If the person really loves you than they should have no problem with you postponing the wedding to a later date. The one thing that you want to make sure you get across is to let them know why you need more time. Some people say that they need more time, but they are really just trying to break things off in a nice way. If your decision is do to a particular incident than you should discuss it with your fiancé. If more people took the time to talk things out before they got married, than there would probably be a lot less divorce in the world.

This is also a good opportunity to see how well the two of you can communicate, even when you are going through difficult situations. Remember that the final decision is something that should be made between the two of you and not between anyone else. Of course in some cases your fiancé may be upset that you want to postpone getting married, and it may take some time for him or her to get used to the idea that you still love them. Some automatically assume that you are just stringing them along and that you never had any intentions of getting married. IF you do plan on postponing the wedding then maybe you should pick another date before you tell your fiancé. This will help your fiancé to feel a bit more comfortable with everything. The bottom line is that if you feel strong enough about not sticking to your wedding date, then you should speak up and say so. There is nothing like getting married when you really need a bit more time.

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Renee is a stay at home mom who homeschools, and a wife, who has been writing for a number of years on a variety of parenting, and education related topics. These topics include homeschooling, travel, and p...   View profile

  • Obviously when you get ready to tell your fiancé it should be in private.
  • Some people say that they need more time
This is also a good opportunity to see how well the two of you can communicate, even when you are going through difficult situations

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  • dragonfly 11/30/2007

    Great idea for an article.

  • Bunting Resources 7/22/2007

    Good info for those in this situation.

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