How to Tell If You Are in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Sadly there are many women and men who are living this on a daily basis and think they have no way out. Even more sadly there are countless women and men who are dealing with this type of abuse on a daily basis and either can't admit it or don't realise it.

Emotional abuse in my opinion is the worst kind of abuse. Physical although it can hurt it is usually visible. Emotional is translucent it's undetectable by the outside world, unless someone is very in tune to it. Emotional abuse is subtle and almost undetectable it isn't until the victim's emotions and emotional state are so destroyed that it's almost impossible to coax them out of it.

Here are some guidelines to know if you may be in an abusive relationship. Remember if you think that your partner isn't treating you with the love and respect you deserve you have the right to walk away.

- Your feelings don't matter to your partner. Suddenly what you want isn't his/her priority. It's all about them and what they want.

- He/she constantly makes you feel bad and will get angry or loose their temper over the littlest things. They belittle you in private and or in public.

- Constantly making fun of you, but it's way past the nice teasing way. It's not ok anymore when it's done in a way that is meant to belittle you and your intelligence

- Feeling as though you can't discuss anything with your significant other because they either don't take interest or they seem to become annoyed by your complaining.

- Frequent criticism or humiliation.

- Your partner ridicules you for expressing yourself.

- They begin to isolate your from family, friends, or groups.

- They limit access to your work, money, or material resources.

- Your relationship seems to swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance and being very close.

- You feel obligated to have sex to avoid a fight.

- You feel trapped in the relationship

- You begin to feel more and more depressed and pulled down by him/her.

These are just a few guidelines for recognizing you are in an emotionally abusive relationship. If you feel as though any of these statements applies to you please do what you know is right and leave! There are great help lines and groups out there to help you get the courage you need to walk away.

Resources.

http://depts.washington.edu/hhpccweb/article-detail.php?ArticleID=376&ClinicID=13

http://www.familyandrelationships.com/publish/love-and-relationship/The_Road_to_Recovery_-_8_Quick_Ways_to_Overcome_an_Abusive_Relationship.shtml

http://www.safe4all.org/?gclid=CNvDnPzt_YsCFQziQQod1Tnjvg

http://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Abusive-Relationship-Abused-Abusing/dp/0471212970