How to Tell If He's a Mama's Boy
How can you tell if he's a Mama's Boy? If he shows any of the following signs, you might be in trouble:
He is well into his adult years and still calls his mother "Mommy." Especially if he regresses back to the voice of a three-year old when he does it. This may be cute at first, but it's likely to get on your nerves after it's repeated a hundred or so times. To all the men out there: If you call your mother "Mommy," please don't be offended. Just add a little bass to your voice and use the term sparingly!
He admits that he won't enter a serious relationship with anyone that his mother doesn't approve of first. If a man cannot trust his own judgment regarding a love interest and needs his mother to decide who is good for him and who isn't, there's a problem. While most men would probably prefer that their mother and significant other hit it off, only a true Mama's Boy would make this part of the screening process for a new love.
He invites his mother along on your first date. Then he makes you sit in the back of his car so she can ride shotgun. If you had known he wanted to go out with his mother instead of you, you really could've stayed home or made other plans. How unfair! Unless the two of you had agreed beforehand to take his mother out for her birthday or Mother's Day or something, this should signal to you that this man is one to stay away from. Furthermore, a man worth having will give you an opportunity to offer the good seat to his mother instead of insisting upon it.
On your first outing with him and his mother, he holds her hand instead of yours. Should this happen, you have several options. First, you can try to ignore it and act like it's not the strangest feeling you've ever had in your life. Or, you can go the phony bologna route and say, "Awwww, how sweet!" then grab your date's free hand so that you won't feel left out. If too many stares from passersby make you uncomfortable, grab Mom's free hand instead and they'll think you're a family!
Whenever you have a disagreement, he calls his mother for advice and then tells you what she says. In general, if he quotes his Mom at least once a day, he's probably a Mama's boy. But telling her your personal business? No sir! All bets should be off at this point.
He has his mother's name and/or face tattooed all over his body. One reasonably sized tattoo of his mother might be acceptable, but if you see anything more than that, you may want to think carefully before giving this guy another second of your time.
He has never lived away from his mother and never plans to. There are a number of reasons why this could be the case, so you can give him the benefit of a doubt if you want. However, I would ask lots of questions before I got in too deep if I were you.
Being a mother myself, I can understand the feelings behind many mother-son attachments. But some people take this way too far! Unless you want his mother to play a major role in your relationship from start to finish, you'll want to say goodbye to this Mama's Boy and wish him well.
Published by Dr. Jamie Yvette - Featured Education Contributor
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16 Comments
Post a CommentMy boyfriend has 57 and he is a mama's boy and dady's boy. He never got married because his mother desaproved all girfriend he had. She jugme since the beginign because I am Hispanic. He had nother hispanic girlfriend and was the same story.
Family always comes first and if the person whom you are with can't or won't except that then they don't love you. You and the person you are with are package deals. And everyone has family. Has everyone forgot the meaning of "FAMIY" We did not get where we are today with out parents and how much did 0ur parents give up for us while growing up? Don't ever forget a parent over a relationship.......Parents don't last forever and when they are gone they are gone.....
I'm 46, still unmarried, and still live with my mother. But, I was born she was 42 and my dad died when I was 14. I think some peope are cruel to call a guy a "mamas-boy". Think first before coming to conclusions! I need a woman and I don't need mom for any advice. I'm a 4-year undergrad thinking on returning to for grad school. I guess, I don't have a woman because I don't meet the "tall requirements" women are stuck on. 5'9" is too short?? But, I take care of my mom who has Parkinson's. She's 88.
i think all men are mama's boys because mother is your first girlfriend.
i had a roomate in college who was an extreme mama's boy. he would sit in the room with the door closed and complain about his stomach hurting. he wouldn't feel better until she would call him
so sweet. My son is definetely a daddy boy! Yeah!
I always tease my hubby that he is a mama's boy...but now after I read this list... he isn't one! LOL :)
My mother, about who I wrote a Mothers' Day article earlier this year, was commonly referred to as the world's best mother-in-law by everyone who knew her. While she was the kind of person whose persona oozed from her and you felt like hugging her would solve all the world's problems, she instilled the need for independence in us and never meddled in anyone's business unless asked first. Having more moms like that would solve the Mama's Boy Syndrome.
Great article. You bring up very valid points. Thanks for sharing.
Another great article. Never dated a momma's boy but I did have a friend who was one. At the age of 59 he's
still unmarried and lives with his mother.
Great post on mama's boys. If his mother comes on your first date there should be an image of a neon sign flashing "run" in your head.