How to Tell If You Are Love Struck or Obsessed

Being love struck happens to the best of us every so often. We may come across a perfect stranger and think them to be extremely attractive or we may develop a crush on an acquaintance. To have a crush on someone is completely normal but sometimes that crush goes to an extreme and causes us to behave in a way that is not normal. If you have recently developed a crush on someone and wonder if your crush is normal or if it is borderline obsessive you should take a look below.

Your crush becomes obsession when;

1. You constantly tell everyone that he or she will be your boyfriend or girlfriend. It's okay to joke around here and there and say I'm going to marry that girl (and sometimes a person does) one day. It becomes a problem when you attempt to turn that simple joke into reality and start believing that you are really going to marry that person no matter what it takes.

2. You become extremely upset when your crush takes interest in someone else and you start to treat the person you have a crush on very nastily. In life, the ones we like might not always say yes to our advances and when a person gets rejected they should be able to move on without carrying too much resentment. If you find yourself unable to do that then you may be obsessed.

3. You obtain your crush's profile from a background check. Obtaining your crush's personal profile is not okay. Background checks should only be used by professionals such as future employers or landlords. Background checks are sometimes done in relationships that are becoming serious if both partners agree. If you do not know a person and you obtain their background information just because you want to then this can be a sign of obsession.

4. You view your crush's personal website more than 6 times a month (if he/she doesn't know you.) If you find yourself viewing your crush's page more than 6 times a month for a lengthy period of time and he or she doesn't know you, this can be a sign of obsession. However, if you and your crush are online friends then frequent viewing of his/her page should be expected since the two of you share updates. If your crush does not know you and you view his/her page multiple times for long periods then this can be considered a form of online stalking.

5. You Google your crush's home address. If your crush has invited you somewhere and you forgot their address or number then it is perfectly fine for you to Google them to find the address. However, if your crush has not contacted you and does not even know you and you look them up on Google this can be a sign of obsessive behavior and may even motivate you to start stalking them.

6. You constantly think about your crush after 3 months of him not showing interest in you. If you have been turned down by your crush and find that you are still not over him/her after 2 or 3 months and still convince yourself that you will be with him/her then you are showing obsessive behavior.

7. You physically or verbally attack your crush's significant others (girlfriend, wife, children, relatives.) This is when the obsession becomes very dangerous. If you have ever physically harmed your crush's significant other or even cursed them on an online website because they rejected you then you are showing obsessive behavior.

8. You find out your crush's routine through observation and "accidentally bump" into him. This is called stalking your crush, and it is a major sign of obsession. It is completely normal to linger a bit in a spot that you and your crush so happen to cross by every so often but it becomes a problem when you observe your crush on a daily basis to see where he/she comes and goes so that you can bump into him.

9. You cause bodily harm to yourself or threaten to commit suicide because of rejection. This is not a normal response to rejection. A good percentage of people have experienced rejection a least once in their lifetime, and a the healthy percentage of those people usually just get down in the dumps. They do not intentionally harm themselves or threaten to kill themselves..

10. You place your crush in compromising situations if he or she does not date you. People who show obsessive behavior are usually very manipulative; they want to be in control and want to orchestrate their fantasy so that it benefits them. Sometimes they will place the person that they have a crush on in compromising situations which can include making threats, blackmail, or even assault.

11. You take pictures of your crush and hang them up or hide them behind a box. Most of us have all seen this character being played in movies; the nice, normal, average looking guy or girl hides behind a façade and turns out to be very creepy. If you find that you take snapshots of your crush without their consent and you store their pictures in your home then this can be a good sign that you are obsessed. However, it is fine if you have taken a picture with your crush and keep it in a keepsake box to remember the memories.