How Can You Tell If a Nice Guy Likes You?

Proximity. Try this the next time you're bored. Go out alone to a public place and seat yourself so that you have a full view of everyone. Preferably a mid-sized bar. You want the place to have decent interaction between the social circles but not too loud or distracting.

Get ready to watch. Nice guys are usually not too good with women but if you want to catch one that has potential, watch how they interact with attractive women. Notice he will always find himself gravitating towards her, but will never approach. He is waiting for a chance occurrence. Hoping for a little luck.

Now watch his eyes. And be careful, don't look too long at him, you'll scare him away like a frightened gazelle. You will learn more if you don't upset your subjects. I know, because I have been there. I would always position myself hoping to get lucky. And in a way, lucky meant talking, to having sex, that night. But that's another story... My eyes would be constantly drawn towards her. Checking her out as much as I can. It's creepy, that I learned over time. But remember, most guys don't know they're being creepy. They only know they're attracted to someone, but don't know how to communicate this instinct effectively, allowing the feelings to be reciprocated.

Do this for several men who seem nice and you will start to see the pattern more clearly. Some men will do it all night for every single women he is attracted to.

On to the next level of the man I am today. By the way, my name's Pete. Nice to meet you. We're using the example of proximity. So how does someone like me use proximity differently than the old nice guy in me. This is much harder to detect but once you get that hang of it, you'll be fine. This is about me so you must understand that I am also a laid back kind of guy. If you want high energy, off the wall, I doubt this information will be as effective.

Without you knowing it, I, in a way, control your proximity to me. And I show interest by doing so. It's my way of saying, you might be someone interesting, you're attractive, and I would like to find out if you are that, for real. I will usually take up space and allow things to happen around me. I move when I have to.

I'm a firm believer that our body language, which includes the eyes, control our reactions to the body language around us. I will see a woman, make great eye contact. Let her look away first. If I'm attracted I will let it happen again. The strange part about this is, over time, when the situation is right, she will gravitate towards me. In a short time an open woman will get close enough to me so I can easily say something to her.

Now sometimes it takes time to move things along. The situation is not quite right, or she's really shy. In that circumstance, only if I am genuinely interested I will catch her eyes strongly and force the issue. I will motion with my hand, or mouth, to come over and talk to me. Which she will. As long as I made proper eye contact from the beginning and allowed her to enter my proximity.

Believe me, I only do that with the women that interest me. When I first starting learning about the attractive man in me I would do it with anyone. I won't even tell you the stories behind them. They're not very pretty.

In conclusion don't let men fool you. We may not be, generally speaking, as good at detecting body language but our instincts are. Either we will get close enough to meet or we will not. For some men, they have no control over it. And some men are in tune with it. Either way when you're out hoping to meet a great guy, don't let these opportunities pass you by. Smile and say Hi when they do occur. If he's available and looking himself, his proximity will let you know.