How to Tell If a Shy Girl Likes You

Have a crush on a girl but not sure if she likes you? Can't tell if she's shy or just not interested? There are several reasons why a girl may come off as shy. Some people just have a shy, timid personality and have been that way since childhood. Other girls may be shy due to cultural beliefs or a perception that men like a chase. Shyness can also stem from a lack of experience or as a result of a bad experience.

What do you know about her dating history? If she has never had a boyfriend, she might be completely clueless as to how to communicate with a guy she likes. It will be helpful to determine if she has a shy personality or if she is just shy in certain situations. Is she shy around everyone or just you? If she is lively and outgoing until you show up, she probably likes you but doesn't know what to do about it.

Although she may not go out of her way to talk to you, a shy girl will often send little signals, even unconsciously, that indicate interest. Have you caught her watching you when she thinks you aren't looking? Does she smile at you and laugh at your jokes even if they aren't particularly funny? Tune in to her body language. Does she appear jumpy or nervous in your presence? An inexperienced girl will need you to be direct with her. Go ahead and ask her out!

Conversely, if she has had a little experience in the dating world, it is possible that she has been burned in past relationships. If the last guy she dated was a real jerk, she may be dealing with self confidence problems or fears of being hurt again. The best method for overcoming such obstacles, is to take things slowly. Give her time to get to know you. Let her know that you like her but don't come on too strong. Show her that you are a good guy who respects women and their feelings and eventually you will earn her trust... and possibly a date.

While talking to your crush directly is preferable, in some cases, indirect methods of communication work best. She may be constantly surrounded by people, have a busy schedule, or be so shy that starting conversation is nearly impossible. Maybe you have a little shyness to overcome yourself. If any of these situations ring true for you, technology is your friend. Email, text messaging or sites like MySpace can be great tools for non threatening conversation. Many people find it easier to be open and honest about their feelings when not dealing with a person face to face.

If these methods are unavailable to you, try talking to one of her friends. It may seem a little juvenile, but this is often the easiest and most painless method for finding out if a shy girl likes you. Her friend may just tell you that your crush is dying for you to ask her out! Her friend might also be able to provide some insights into her interests or dating history that will help you to plan your next move. Will her friend tell her that you were asking about her? Of course, but this can only help you as your crush will now be more inclined to let you know in some way if she is interested or not.

So, you tried one or more of the above methods and decided that she does like you. Great! Go ahead and ask her out, just keep in mind that her shyness may persist, especially through the first date. The type of date that you plan is the key to putting her at ease and getting a second one. Avoid situations where you will be constantly trying to think of something to say to draw her out, such as a dinner date. Group dates, physical activities and movies are all good, low pressure choices that have the potential for sparking conversation and bringing you closer together. Use your knowledge of her hobbies and interests to plan something that you know she will enjoy, preferably something that you have never done or know little about. If, for example, she is into art, and you don't know a Monet from a Picasso take her to the latest exhibit at a local gallery. Giving her the opportunity to play teacher will help to combat her shyness.