How to Understand Men: A Woman's Guide

You may ask yourself if men really are from mars like the title of a popular series of books may suggest. It may seem like men are from another planet when comparing behavior and attitudes to those of a female. The key to communicating with a man is bridging the gap between what you want and what he needs. What is the best way to make an effort to really understand your partner?

In my personal experience the best way to get to know and understand men is to put yourself in a man's shoes by surrounding yourself with men. I can not say enough about the benefits of having male friends and relatives in your life, and the positive effect it can have on your relationships. A man who really cares about your well being will be your best resource and insight on the nature of men. Asking your girlfriends for advice on men can lead to confusion. Only a man can offer advice from a man's perspective and how it may relate to you. Men for the most part are straight shooters, and will not offer advice in the form of gossip. A man has the ability to discern true intentions, cheating, and lies. Having a supportive network of men around you who care for you may be just what you need to be able to see things from a perspective other than your own. Generally most men value power, efficiency, and achievement. Love your partner for who he is not who you want him to be. Recognize and celebrate his accomplishments. It may seem really trivial but a man's ego needs stroked at times! Men love improving themselves, but hate being improved. Don't try to change your man!

Men are much simpler than women. To understand this is key in getting along with a man. A man's need are more streamlined, emotions are expressed more simply, and in general men are no fuss. A man has the ability to state what he wants simply and directly. As females we sometimes have a tendency to make things more complex than they have to be. Long drawn out talks, nagging, and being clingy are definitely turn offs for men. Communicate efficiently and you will find the stress of miscommunication is eliminated.

Personal space is so important to men that they will push you away if need to be make sure they get it. To prevent your man from pushing you away make sure you both have days that you spend alone or with your own friends. Establishing days to spend with each other is equally important to reassure your partner that he is a priority to you. A healthy balance between time spent together, alone, and with friends will give you both the space you need.

Most importantly a man probably doesn't know what he needs. Men need a woman who is understanding. This doesn't mean you know everything there is to know about your partner, or that you must completely understand men. Saying you need to be understanding simply means you accept that there will be problems, and you're willing to listen. Open and honest communication is important because understanding females can be difficult for men. Men and women have different communication styles. Being open to learning about your partner and his communication style will send him a message that you are secure in your relationship. Patience is a virtue. Understanding your man can be as simple as standing by him.