How a Wife Can Save Her Marriage: And Other Ways to Keep Married Couples Together

The divorce rate is awfully high these days toppling out at a whopping 50% of marriages. Many couples start off happily running to the altar only to end up quickly signing their name at the bottom of some divorce papers. How'd it happen? Years of issues, both people would say if you asked them. But just how can you prevent yourself from getting a divorce? Below are some key ways to keep from getting a divorce. One major one has to do with the wife.

Believe it or not, it's the woman who plays the biggest part in whether or not the marriage will end up in divorce. The Bible states in 1^st Peter 3:1 that a woman may be able to win a man over to salvation with her conversation. That means, in a marriage, a woman can really make a difference just by the way she talks and acts. Also, The Message translation of Proverbs 31 says all a virtuous woman's words are kind. So if a woman is virtuous, she doesn't speak badly about her husband or call him names. This way, a woman can save her marriage. All of the power is her tongue.

If people would think of the phrase "Love conquers all," they could easily make up with all of the people who have ever done them wrong. And divorce wouldn't have to happen. 1^st Corinthians 13: 4-8 talks about all of the things love does. Love basically covers a multitude of sins. That means love can withstand the lights being shut off, the car getting repossessed, and even cheating.

Often in a relationship, it is easy to put the issue over the person.

Most times, all people remember when they are in a relationship is what the other person said or did to hurt them. They remember the struggles and the hang-ups. Without forgiveness, that issue will begin to replace the heart of the person you married. But you have to look past the issue and remember the person. Or in other words, don't look at him and just see debt, look further and see, "David."

Forgiveness is key

Vital to any relationship whether it be marriage, or friendship, if you don't forgive immediately, a root of bitterness towards the person you are not forgiving begins to grow. Then that slight foothold unforgiveness has in your life becomes a stronghold.

I once read a quote that said either one of two things happen when you hate someone. Either that person doesn't care or he or she doesn't know. Therefore, the only person who ends up being affected by the hatred is you. Now your husband or wife may be hurt if he or she notices you don't forgive him or her, but that only means he or she really loves you, and you are the only one still holding on to the past.

In the first place, it's good to choose your partner carefully.

Before marriage, there is always a relationship. When you begin to think about marriage, you have to choose your partner very carefully. You have to do this because you don't want to value forgiveness yourself when your partner is bent on holding grudges against people. Divorce isn't pretty, but it happens especially when the two people haven't really become one in mind, soul, and body. So as you are dating or courting someone, don't get in a rush to be married. Really take the time to ask yourself and the other person all of the right questions.