How to Win Against a Jealous Co-Worker
Do You Ever Feel like You Are Bombarded by Jealous People at Work?
Never accuse yourself of having wrong feelings because you can often feel like you are standing alone when someone is jealous against you. It is important to examine your own conscience and decide if you are over acting or if you have a legitimate claim. Your co-worker may be jealous of you because you give your work environement more business and you may be looking at a pay raise or promotion faster than anyone else in your company. If you have someone that is jealous of you at work, then know that you are doing the right thing and your co-worker is doing the wrong thing. People can only be jealous of you if you do the right thing most of the time and if you are good at what you do.
Perhaps when you go to work everyday, people look at you and say, "wow you are really a knock out and you are the hottest looking person at work." They may also say something like, "you do your work so well and without any supervision at all." This is truly a gift that you want to have and be able to obtain for awhile. If you truly want to impress your co-workers and those that are around you, then it is important that you contribute something to them as well. People want to feel like you are singleing them out and that you care for them. Know that you have to do something in the work place to make a jealous person like you or else they will always express jealousy towards you and you will have little peace of mind.
Jealous people at work may look at you with an evil eye or just act nasty when you go around them. This is very common and popular in today's society. Some people just want to act like they know everything and that they are indeed the ones that show happiness to the whole world. In fact, these people really need to take a mirror and look at themselves in it to see that they are not as good as they think.
In order to defeat a jealous co-worker, you have to make them feel good about themselves first. Jealousy is sparked by someone that feels as though they are beneath you or that others do not see them as good as you. Jealous is usually sparked when someone doesn't get their own way or when they do not get recognized by others who are around them. A jealous person may feel like everyone around likes you and not them. They are usually people with low self esteem and a whole lot of inner anger. These are people that you may want to watch out for because they can really upset you. It is important to understand that you have to make one of these insecure people feel good about themsleves. When you do that, you have helped them to better understand themselves and the fact that you are not out to make them look bad.
Jealous people usually have the habit of wanting everyone to look at them with the same respect that they give to you. However, respect is given with time and with knowledge. You are good at what you do because you put the time into your job to make something happen. It is not your fault that you are good at what you do and you should never feel sorry for that. The next time that you confront jealousy at work, say some complimenting words towards the person that is jealous of you and you will find that they will get a lot nicer to you. Sometimes when you lend your words or hand out to someone else, it allows them to get through some of their own insecurities.
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Post a CommentI agree that it does you no good to try and "fix" the jealous person by trying to make them feel better about themselves. Tried; it does not work. My boss and I are new to the office, the jealous person was there before we got there. She has made it her life's mission to get rid of me, and my boss goes along with whatever Ms. Jealous wants. I tried talking to Mr. J in a nice way about our relationship and getting along, but it made it worse and I think made her feel like she might accomplish her goal. I am worried each and every day that I will be fired. Ms. J says things to my boss right in front of me about wanting somebody else in my position. Ms. J has no fear and is gutsy and rude. I am single and need the job badly. I feel hopeless. Help.
After years in the Dental field, jealousy is the main reason I'm changing professions. Working around people that claim to be so professional and want the best for the patients can act like jealous school yard children in a constant basis. Changing my work environment and having control of who I'm around will solve a big part of the problem.
I have a jealous person at work, who is spreading nasty rumours about me. She ignores me and cannot even look at me! She called me nasty names in an argument (at work)and I really knew what she was all about! For months she has continued to bully me and act jealous towards me. The fact is, I look better than her - She wears a wig, lots of make up on her face and false she wears false nails. I'm more Eau Naturelle and don't have to wear a wig, my nails are all mine and I am much prettier than her. She obviously has insecurities about herself, which she needs to deal with. Why else would she find so interesting about me to have to talk about me - what a sad person!
Paying compliments will work for some people but not for others. I have found that it won't work for people who are very competitive and want to have all the coworkers, your friends included, to like her better than you. You have some trait that she wishes she could have too, but for some reason, she can't. Anyway, that's my opinion. I say fight back with firm behavior. Don't back down, and hopefully, she will get the message.
I think that jealous co-workers have some serious issues. It's bad enough to deal with jealous people in general, but worse when you have to deal with childish behavior at a place of work. It's just plain unprofessional. I currently have a jealous co-worker and it really isn't my responsibility to make her "feel better." If she isn't secure enough in herself or fails to realize that her demotion is due to HER shortcomings, then that is her problem, not mine. I'm not paid to make her feel better about herself, I am paid to do MY job and to do it better than her because I am more capable.
I don't agree because I did this and it masked things for a while but the girl just kept getting jealous and feeling more threatened and inferior depite my several overtures. I had already planned to leave the company before this happened. Because of her and her lies and my boss' tendency to believe her longterm I quit without notice. I had the 2nd senior position. I was very considerate of my other coworkers and made sure that my leaving abruptly would not be too burdensome. I made sure they knew I was available for references - as the boss was well disliked by then. 2 months after I left I noticed that 2 coworkers would no longer respond to my communications. I began to feel that something was wrong because we had always gotten along before. In fact, these 2 workers had been under some pressure by the boss and they had felt they were going to be fired. In the months before I left I had done my utmost to help them and to get the boss to understand they were much better than h
My Boss, who claims she is my friend, is really nasty to me. All the other woman can make jokes and it's okay. When I do it, I am threaten and told that "MY mouth is going to get me into trouble one day" Why is it when I do it is wrong, but when other do it it's okay? It seems like I am according to her, "Her friend" but on her terms. It is making my life miserable and I hate working there. She curses so much that I believe she thinks that it is part of the english language. She is has tried bumping me when she walks by on purpose and I try to ignore her, but I respond to the it by saying "Oh I am sorry I didn't mean to bump you" knowing very well that she had every intention of doing it. She has a co worker and it's also her BFF. She says nothing to her if she is not doing her job, she turns the other cheek. But I speak to my husband on the phone (only personal call I get) she makes a big stink about it...I give up, she claims she is my friend, so why does she treat me so ba
well, unfortunately they do make you look bad, when they spread lies about u. I confronted one of them -of course she denied but I have email proof!! Anyway, don't hate me becasue my boss empowers me and I actually get to USE my degree
Good article, but it's really not a victim's -- er, person's -- responsibility to make a jealous person "feel better". It just doesn't work that way. The problem lies with the jealous person and their own lack of self-esteem (or moral goodness, even - ha).
Face it, not everyone is a "nice person".
Human beings really are apes in their behaviors... you are not accepted socially by some, hated by others because you make them look bad, or you have something others don't. The best you can do is set your own boundaries and respect yourself. Nobody has the right to hurt you without your permission, and the jealous person inevitably only makes themselves look bad to other colleagues. Just don't play their game...
well.... theres this girl who like is sooooo bitchy too me! God I hate her she has to be the worst kid God has ever created!!!.... actually its hell itself!!!
how terrible! she is crazy jealous of me!
B/c guys like me! and ya...... and I`m Pretty, and I tend to be nicer!!!!
and she is all the opposite!!!!
so...... if u ever meet someone jealous u have 2 choices number 1:shut them up
or number 2: PUNCH THEM IN THE FACE!!!!
=).... sorry, I`m being evil!!!
=) lol...