How a Woman Can Keep from Driving a Man Away

I am not an expert but I do have extensive knowledge in how to drive a guy away. Several times over I have done something that one should not do if she wanted the guy to actually stick around. So having been there and done that I can say that I can speak from experience on the things that a woman should not do. I have written an article on What not to Say on a First Date and an article on How to Make a Date a Successful One, now I want to really walk you through what not to do during your relationship if you want to keep the guy you are seeing.

The wrong name slip up:

One of the things that a woman should not do at any point in her relationship if she wants to keep the guy around is to call him by another man's name during sex. Now while this looks like common sense you would be surprised at how many women do this. I mean after all you are in the heat of the moment and you just happen to scream out a name or moan a name and it is not the guy you are with. I myself have been guilty of this. A sure fire way to ensure this does not happen ladies is to keep your mouth shut during sex. Do not talk at all during sex and you will guarantee that you do not make a slip of the tongue.

Sexual Partner Honesty Blunder:

While I am all for being honest with your partner after you have been together for awhile, I will tell you that it is not kosher to tell your partner how many sexual partners you have had. Now if you are a virgin or have only had two sexual partners tops, then I would say tell him because men love innocents. If the number is over two, then keep this to yourself. Do not lie to your new beau but tell him instead that you do not believe that it is an open topic. Let him know that sex is private to you and you will not discuss with him previous partner with him anymore than you will discuss your sex life with him with anyone else. That way you did not lie to him about the number of partners that you have had, but you did not make him run for the hills by telling him just how experienced you really are.

I have always believed in total honesty. My mother had warned me never to be that honest with a man. I now know from experience that she was right. Another moment where your lips should be kept firmly shut. Because not all men can stand this type of honesty and you will never know which ones really can and which ones can't until you tell, and at that point it is too late to take back what you said. So really why risk it right?

The Parental Drill Team:

Never take your new partner around your parents in the beginning of your relationship and let him be drilled by your parents. Even if your parents do not drill him, they will at some point while present they will talk about something that pertains to you that in the beginning of a relationship your new partner does not need to hear. After all a new partner does not need to get the third degree from your parents. Nor does he need to hear about your potty training days or your weird little traits that your parents know all to well.

So ladies keep the guy away from the parents for the first few months at least. Let him see you as a person first aside from your kooky parents. After all you are a grown woman who does not need her dates screen by mom and dad like a teenager.

Picking out China:

Do not discuss marriage and china patterns with you partner before he has proposed to you. Never push the topic of marriage until you have been together for along time. Now after a few months of dating it is ok to talk casually about dating but don't drill him on marriage and start looking at china with him. Keep a lot of the heavy stuff for after he has proposed to you. I did this before so I can tell you from experience that it will send most sane men running. I started showing him these really cool china plates that I wanted when I got married. Big mistake cause he never came back around after that. So really avoid this one, if you want him to stick around.

The Wonder Bunny of Beds:

Sex is great for consenting adults and you can even have one night stands if that is what you want. I would caution against going to bed on the first few dates with a guy you like unless that is all you want is a one night stand. Men have a thing about long term committed relationships with women who give it up to easily. Keep the man chasing you for awhile; don't let him have that prize right off the bat. Guys can sleep around on the first date, but the same guys don't have much respect for girls that do this.

The exception to this rule is if you have known the man for along time prior to dating him. For example the man I am married to now I had known him and been friends with him since I was 18 and did not go out with him until I was 22. Now I did sleep with him pretty quickly there but we had been friends for 4 years before going out on a date. So if you have a friend like that then you can cast aside this little rule.

As a final note I would like to say good luck to all you ladies out there in playing the game and finding that forever guy.