How to Write a Breakup Letter to Your Boyfriend

If you are in a relationship that isn't working out, prolonging it usually just makes things worse. Sometime the best thing to do is break up with your boyfriend and move on. In most cases breaking up should be done in person. Unfortunately, breaking up in person is not always the safest way. Sometimes it's best to write a breakup letter to your boyfriend.

The most important part about writing a breakup letter is to be kind. Although you probably have some good reasons for wanting to end the relationship, now is not the time to do anything that will cause your boyfriend to get overly upset. Telling him that he is a horrible boyfriend will serve no purpose. Remember you are ending the relationship, so it doesn't matter anymore.

Try to include a few nice comments about him or your relationship to soften the blow a bit. Tell him why you want to break up, but do your best to avoid harsh words or accusations. It is best to state the facts, rather than opinion. For instance, if your boyfriend cheated on you, you might say something like "I'm breaking up with you because you cheated on me" instead of "You are a fitlhy, no-good cheating jerk!"

Plan to give him the letter during a relatively stress free time. Don't give him the letter the night before a big test at school, or when he is at work. Give it to him when you know he will be home for a few hours so that he'll have time to deal with the break up for a bit before he has to go out and face his friends or coworkers.

After you give him the letter, allow him a chance to talk with you. Remember your letter to him was one sided and he deserves a chance to respond. Call him the next day and ask him if he'd like to talk about it. However, if the conversation turns ugly, end it abruptly. Even during a breakup, there is no need to be insulting or hateful.

After the dust settles, you'll probably see your ex boyfriend at work, school or social events. Try not to avoid him. Just say hello and make light conversation for a few minutes. At first, these encounters will be awkward, but after a few chance meetings it will be much easier.