How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows

While writing your own vows for your wedding might seem like a very sweet and romantic thing to do, it can often be stressful and frustrating, too. If you aren't sure what you're doing, it can be really tough to figure out what you want to say. This article will help you.

First of all, decide with your partner if you will be writing your vows together or separately. Do you want to come up with something together that you will both use, or will you each have separate vows? It can be a nice surprise to hear what your partner has to say on your wedding day, but if you work together, it can really ease the stress, since you know what the other person is writing and don't have to worry if your work is up to snuff.

Writing vows is serious business, so choose a time when you won't be disturbed. Sit down with a pencil and a notebook, or even at your computer if you are more comfortable typing. Some romantic music in the background and a candle or two can't hurt the mood any!

Begin by writing a love letter. You have probably done this before, so it shouldn't be too difficult. Include why you love your partner, what things about him or her make them special to you. You can also write about a specific incident, when you realized that you were in love, or the first time you saw your fiancé.

If you need some inspiration, look up romantic poems online, or song lyrics to give you some ideas. Don't try copying them, though, since someone will notice and tell your fiancé, which could be disastrous! Instead, just use them for inspiration. If you are religious, Bible verses can be another good source of inspiration.

Once you have the letter, it is a good idea to talk with your fiancé about how long the vows should be. You don't want to be talking for hours at the altar, so keep it short and sweet. Five to six lines is usually fine. Then go back over your letter and select the highlights to rewrite into five lines. If you are going to write your vows together, follow the above steps and then select the best from both your letters and rewrite those five lines together.

You might want to write down the final results so you can look them over with your pastor or the person who will be marrying you. They may have suggestions or ideas for making them better. It is also a good idea to have them written in case you get too nervous on the big day and can't remember your lines!

Writing your own wedding vows is a great way to make your wedding day extra special and it is worth the effort needed to come up with something original and meaningful to you both. After the wedding, why not have your vows printed up on high quality paper and added to your wedding album as a special reminder of your love for each other?