How-To Tips for Guys for Successful Dating After 60

Is it a scary proposition getting back into dating when you have been away from it for at least 30 years? I've had a number of discussions with men on the difficulties they face getting back into the dating scene.

Whether you have recently divorced or lost your spouse to sickness, you have decided you don't want to spend the next number of years alone. You haven't gone out on a date for 30 years. Where do you begin?

Secret 1
Start taking women out for coffee. Tell your friends to tell their wives that you are single and you want to meet a new woman to do things with. As the names and phone numbers come in, ask every contact out for coffee. It is well worth the $2 investment just to get comfortable again with talking to members of the opposite sex. Note - Don't offer to pick her up and don't give her your phone # until you know for sure whether you want to take her out another time.

Secret 2
Spend time in places where you enjoy going. If you are a golfer, go out to the driving range and hit a few balls. Don't be afraid to talk to women. They are there to do the same thing as you - golf. You already have something in common! Take a chance and let her know you noticed what a great swing she has. Ask her how often she comes out to the driving range and remark that you hope to see her next time.

Secret 3
Sign up for a class that you are interested in. Are you ready to learn Spanish? How about learning how to sail or kayak? There are so many interesting classes available out there and it's great way to meet new people. Even if none of the women in you class are single they might know someone who would be right for you.

Secret 4
Go hiking or mountain biking with a local group. Fitness amongst the mature population is becoming more common. People are staying active much longer. Because it's a group activity, there is no pressure when you start talking to people you haven't met before.

Secret 5
Go to any single's events that are advertised. I know a lot of guys back off from singles functions but let's face it. You are all single and you might possibly meet a very special lady while you are dancing. You can always ask her out for coffee if you want to find out more about her.

It's not necessarily easy to get back into the dating scene but once you've taken that first step, it won't be as difficult. Go out and enjoy. And remember the women are just as nervous about dating as you are!