Human Bonds

You might be surprised to hear one day, that many adopted children later in life, do not support adoption. Perhaps its because the decision was never adoption versus abortion, for the simple reason that the child is born before it is adopted. The long-term result of the adoption separation from the biological mother is practically permanent, much like the guilt from the abortion.

In large measure, the pro-life and pro-choice camps have their own marketing needs, to sustain their views and funding. The first group will sensibly espouse that adoption is better than abortion, since the child lives. The second group will remind everyone that the mother was there first, and that she should have the final say, whatever the health and/or financial reasons given. Some also believe that there is too many unwanted children, and too many starving and/or afflicted with disease. These two positions would appear to be dialectically opposed while in fact they are both in rhetorical agreement. This is because they both approve of the separation of the biological mother and her child, in one form or anther.

The truth is, any separation of both the mother and the father from the child creates lasting psychological damage. The loving, caressing and nurturing mother's care, which the child identifies chemically, by sound through her voice (talking, singing) and with the bond of permanent acceptance and forgiveness, is not replaceable. Likewise, the father's role of authority and security are also identifiable with both father and child's inherent ability to see parts of themselves in each other. The bonds of trust are the sacred link that should not be broken so intentionally.

Proponents of abortion and euthanasia do not believe in the sanctity of life. To such, the position they take is that one must take into account the degree or kind of suffering, mental or other deterioration, dependency on life-support equipment, or development they manifest (lack of development), and regardless of the imminence of death, the burden on others, and the wishes of the subject to live or die. They want to have a society where the sanctity of life is determined by the quality of life, for which society will define "quality". They want a society where anyone (mother and abortion, spouse/family/state and euthanasia) can arrogate life or death decisions. Many within that same group mysteriously oppose capital punishment, suggesting that prisoners have a greater quality of life than anyone else.

Those against abortion prefer to err on the side of life, accepting that maybe we don't have all the answers (alluding to God), than to err on the side of death. This is where the camp splits on the issues of "burden on others". I suppose that one day, someone will measure a person's Burden Index, and should it reach a critical value, decree that euthanasia is necessary for the good of the state.

Parents

The role of the father in our current culture has been declined in value, largely due to the growth of the feminist industry that still advocate little need for fathers in families. This same culture increasingly accepts through fake tolerance and political correctness lenses much immoral, disgusting and anti-civil behavior such as pedophilia, bestiality, homosexual exhibitionism, homosexual marriage and homosexual parenting. The latest publishing from the UK Daily Mail (Dec. 14^th, 2006) headline: "IVF babies do not need a father figure, experts say" (IVF: In Vitro Fertilization).

By advocating the needlessness of fathers, those feminists will be surprised to find themselves in a similar position, when sooner or later it will be declared that they are not needed either. With the artificial womb looming, the female reproductive system will be as needless as the full male presence. The child-production industry is a much-desired construct in many nations, especially in China. The synthetic womb is already in existence, but you can relax for while, since we are several years away from having children cultivated for the entire pregnancy term within it. In fact, there could be a time in human evolution, if this dogma continues, where young females will have their entire reproductive systems surgically removed at an early age, giving the states dominion over the entire process. Some will argue the advantages of this detached synthetic womb, versus the traditional prone to drugs, alcohol, stress or traumatic events in a mother's life during her term.

The resulting adoptable, genetically perfect children will grow in numbers, while many embryos will be abruptly terminated for stem cell research, organ-growth and other unethical shenanigans. At first glance, fewer children would be born with disease, and unwanted pregnancies would become a thing of the past. Over time, I suspect that only limited gene pools would be selected for human reproduction, due to resilience over time. This would reduce the natural gene diversity that actually helps to assure human survival, but we are likely to believe more in our perceived God-like powers. While we currently grow genetically engineered corn crops, which can only be consumed and cannot actually grow its own crops without the re-engineering effort, one wonders what human reproduction capabilities will become.

Connected and Lonely

Today, with all the cell phones, powerful home computers with sophisticated e-mail and instant messaging tools, the industrial world is truly connected. Still, many are lonely, and in search of a more basic, fundamental human contact. As they check their voice messages and e-mails, they stare at empty screens in disappointment; "no one is calling me?" Many still, misinterpret their internal need, their spiritual cry, and indulge in connections that are neither healthy, nor based on good decisions. Good decisions are hard to come by, without long-term parental training and assistance that come from the life parents lived.

For many years, men and women had little information to base critical life decisions. They relied on outside experts, like the clergy, the rabbi, or the local wise elder. The western race to human freedom and financial independence brought about the first declines in many religions, while the community at large began to accept the theory of evolution, rather than God. Part of this progress, was the development and growth of the psychology. In believing that modernism was responsible for this, their blind acceptances excluded any spiritual development, resulting in few seeking a higher purpose. The eventual retraction of Freud's theories is further evidence that science is ever evolving as new relative truths are postulated.

Now we have information-overload, with those in promotion of their ideology, their position on evolution or other undisclosed agenda, manipulating words and twisting known facts and history to convey an incorrect assertion. Many get lost as to what is the actual truth. The muddier the water, the better for the industry that follows which help you pick up the pieces for a price. With this vast amount information available to so many, responsible and caring advice is very hard to come by. The depressed, sad and lonely are relegated to anti-depressant pills, regardless of whatever other addiction they're in denial of. The pervasive use of these chemicals to alter moods is simply because many do not have the ability to control their own emotions. Long lasting side effects are not known of until 20 years have passed, and the final verdict is given. In the meantime, other drugs appear.

Those not believing in God or in a higher power, a creator, claim in large part is because they cannot see God. God has not proven Himself, neither manifested Himself to them. Correspondingly, many do not believe in the parent links, the natural human bonds between mother and child, and father and child, because they cannot see the link. Some people therefore deny God for the same reasons they deny their own parents. The same people will blindly believe in a new drug to treat their sadness, in a new person they've met, and in the latest news from CNN or the BBC.

Synthetic Womb

Synthetic Wombs will allow births to occur under water (Water Birth), in a Womb Aquarium housing hundreds. Each Synthetic Womb will be equipped with a gestation clock, nourishment fluids, immune-system development cocktails. An all inclusive government-control program would ensure immediate care following trauma-less births. Advances in genetics, cloning and In Vitro Fertilization (IVF), gene selection and so on, suggests we are not that far away.

With no definable parental links, these offspring would lead the way into an even greater age of immediate satisfaction, and impatience. We have many examples today of children brought up without the natural parental links, with the results that have spawned a huge medical industry for the treatment of depression and many psychoses. Many seek alternative, spiritual healing in effort to find this missing bond, and to learn how to trust in someone and/or something.

Devalued Parenting

Replacement parents through adoption services or single parents remarrying are not the real and trusting natural parents. Jude Cassidy (in "Family members as third parties in dyadic family conflict." Child Development, 59:1293-1302) suggests that if infants are valued and given comfort when required, they come to feel valuable; conversely, if they are neglected or rejected, they come to feel worthless and of little value. (Cassidy, 1988, p.133) Leaving children to be raised by others for any reason, adds to the worthlessness, self-devaluating and low self-esteem predominant in this quick-fix society.

The devalued family nucleus results in the general assumption that this is the natural, civilized way, when nothing could be further from the truth. Dysfunctional family units are more readily conducive to "hey, why not". People with conviction and principles are therefore in the minority, because of the devalued institution of marriage. The birth of the narcissistic society is manifested. Personality disorders displayed by all the members of the dysfunctional family range from obsessive - compulsive disorders to hypochondriasis and depression. Such families are reclusive and anti-social. This inevitably leads to defective or partial socialization and differentiation and to problems with sexual identity.

Society's decline in moral values, with its degeneration into pornographic idolization, pervasive in facets of its casual reading media, its entertainment media and in its capitalist marketing engines is simply a mirror image of the loss of family. This nucleus has been neutered by all the immediate-relief, the self-centered and the lost souls of compounded bad decisions. Baby boomer parents found themselves struggling to maintain familial truths and ties, in fast growing mediums like television that derided family values and espoused the romance of elopers, criminals and society's outcasts. Each era competes with the previous one on how to be more radical, distinct, and perverted than the one before. Lost are the children, who have no moral compass who cannot make valued judgments, good decisions and cannot assert common sense. Most, unfortunately, rely on the purveyor's messages, like the mass media, to identify so-called "truths".

Now that family units consist of 2 or 3 dads, 3 or 4 moms, 9 to 12 grandparents, half-brothers and sisters, dozens of disconnected aunts and uncles and cousins, it has become nearly impossible to keep everyone relevant (to one family nuclei). Those single parent units, if go on for too long, have an even more profound effect on children. A single mom's young boy may grow to have an unhealthy fondness of men for lacking the direction and attention of a proper father. Likewise for a single father's young daughter, who will miss the feminine guidance and loving of a real mother, may develop improper relationships with others of the same sex.

The 4^th Estate and its Tentacles of Consumption

Political Correctness attempts to label anyone concerned about the direction of society as homophobes, sexist, and bigots. While pontificating about free speech, the intent is to muzzle discourse. The mass media leading up to the late 1990's, has suffered its first blows that is beginning the process of shattering its monopoly on this discourse. The advent of the Internet is slowly converting the "broadcast" medium into a "conversation", while lies, inaccurate reporting and political bias are revealed. The mass media is fighting tooth and nail, but are effectively losing, ebbing closer and closer to the relativity of science, in that "Nothing in science is absolutely true" (Stansfield W.D.,"The Science of Evolution," [1977], Macmillan: New York NY, 1983, Eighth Printing, p.7). This adds to the old adage of "don't believe everything you read".

When you consider that "fat and happy" are not conducive to corporate profits, you could understand that unhappiness (depression), and hypochondria certainly motivates people to spend some money. Is it any wonder that the wheels we don't control, always lead us away from real happiness, fulfillment, self-esteem and confidence. This entire happiness realm begins with a traditional family unit; maintained and nurtured by healthy parents that know and accept the responsibility they have, and understand their place unselfishly. Human evolutional development is at a crossroad, where the value of a mother and a father are being considered for extraction from the construct of society.

Hit-and-run

The responsibility is on parents, mothers and fathers to educate their children about the sanctity of life, and the special burden women have in guarding their womb. While men should be concerned about where their seeds are planted (including sperm banks), they don't really appreciate what they've done until they get older, and ponder spiritually, what children they have spawned, what they might be like, and how they are doing. Rarely is the male involved in a decision such as abortion, so when guilt appears, mother is indeed alone. When society relied on religious teachers, many thought that there were too many strict rules. That we must modernize our thinking and ignore centuries of life's precious lessons. The father, who would protect his daughter and ensure she would marry the right man for the right reasons, is the first protector of the womb. Today's father sends his daughter out to school in raunchier clothes than street hookers. Today's mother strives to be her daughter's best friend, and today's children learn at school how to help the state gain control over parental guidance. Academia has entitlements associated with academic freedoms, but apparently no longer considers its responsibilities in the balance.

This hit-and-run society is now turning on itself. The abortionists inevitably ensure their own demise over time, but at what price? Those who counsel women to give their babies away should be held accountable, and remain a link for support when the child is told the truth. They should encourage biological mothers to write letters to their abandoned children, in an attempt to explain it (health, financial, lifestyle, burden, quality of life, etc). Any mother with proper feelings for her baby would likely come to realize that her reasons are probably shallow and selfish as she writes it. Adoptive parents should be told the truth about what kind of acceptance they will likely get, when the truth is told. Parents who opt out of their marriages and abandon their children to seek a different life should be made accountable (financially) for any derived medical treatment for the children, for any crimes and damages committed, and for any imprisonment.

So for this Holiday season, appreciate your mom and dad, because they are a dying breed, indeed.

Copyright © 2006, Guy Michaud, Toronto CANADA