Husbands and Wives Should Be Kind to Each Other

The recent Jon & Kate scandal has a lot of people talking. Most people don't blame Jon one bit! When your wife treats you like a child and publicly cuts you down on every occasion it is perfectly reasonable to look elsewhere. That's the first thing I thought when I saw the news.

I really don't care who is cheating on who with whom or how much or who started it. The thing that has always struck me about the couple is what a selfish diva Kate is. There are 9 other people in the house and it's all about how many loads of laundry she has to do.

Husbands and wives (or couples of any variety) should be NICE to each other. Home should be a safe place where no one calls you fat or complains about how you do things. Husbands are not children to be ordered around and reprimanded when they don't mind. Children are not the biggest burden in the world and you are not a saint for having them. Some people actually like their children (watch Table for 12).

Both my husband and I have issues. At times we are each lazy, inconsiderate, boring or grouchy. It's OK. We are also kind to each other, thoughtful and supportive. We are each entitled to bad days and to make mistakes. If he really bugs me I go to my office. If I really bug him he turns up the TV. I honestly o think he's the greatest guy in the world, even if he watches sports 24/7 and eats way too much meat.

I know that he will lie like a dog when I ask him "does this dress make me look fat." He knows that I will put up with him going directly to bowling after having been away from home all week on a business trip because bowling is fun for him. We each put up with a million little imperfections to the point that we don't even think of them. When he walks through the door (finally!) I'm glad to see him. I hope he's glad to see me.

I know we are lucky to have worked it all out, but it's just not that hard. Be nice. Think before you speak (boy is that a big one!). Treat your partner like you would like to be treated. And never, ever criticize each other. There are enough other people in the world who will do that.