I Met My Husband Through Online Dating

So, all of your friends are either married, married with children or in a serious relationship. How are you supposed to meet someone. I knew I needed help when my mother started "fixing" me up with "girlfriends" to go out with. You have to admit that's pretty bad. I would get the call from my mother..."So and so's daughter can't meet anyone either, why don't you give her a call and the two of you can meet and go out." I Knew I was in dating trouble. I needed major help. I opted not to call this"friend of a friend's daughter" but chose to try internet also known as online dating.

I didn't have any experience with this so I called a work friend that I knew did. She had been dabbling in it for a few months and went out here and there on some dates. She showed me how to put my ad on and fill out my bio. I chose to do the "free" internet dating site called "Love At AOL". I didn't want to spend any money on this not knowing how things would turn out. So off I went. I found a picture that I liked of myself and posted it that day. I filled out my bio with my likes, dislikes, hobbies, wants in a relationship, etc...... I hit upload and sat back and waited for my responses to come pouring in.

Well, they sure poured in alright. I must have had 30 responses when I came home from work the very next day. I was psyched. I got in my comfy pj's and started going through the emails. I remember thinking, WOW, this is so easy. Dating right from your iving room. You didn't need any makeup or even have to put on a pair of tight jeans. You could be shoving your face with potato chips and they wouldn't even know it. Unfortunately the guys on the other end of the computer were doing the same thing. The responses were horrible! Who were these men and where did they come from? One was worse than the next. It was then I knew this was not going to be as easy as I thought.

All in all in took me 2 years of internet dating before I met the one. My husband, my best friend is sitting next to me reading a book as I write this review. I can write this knowing that I am giving you the best possible advice I can give with the satisfaction that it will work for you too. This is all from my own experience. First hand knowledge of what to do and what definitly not to do when internet dating.

Step 1: Get a really cute picture of yourself but make sure it is current.
Step 2: Upload your picture and fill out your bio. Be as honest as possible.
Step 3: DO NOT GIVE OUT YOUR PERSONAL PHONE NUMBERS OR HOME ADDRESS.
Step 4: GIve them a cell number if need be.
Step 5: Do not tell them exactly where you work.
Step 6: Screen all emails first before speaking on the phone.
Step 7: Once you have read the email and realize you might be interesed in talking further...email them back and ask for a picture.
Step 8: To make sure they are sending you a current pic ask them to send more than one. You will be surprised how many dates I went out on when the guy looked absolutely nothing like the pic they sent. Usually they say it is them but 5 years ago. Sure when they were still going to the gym!!!!
Step 9: Once you have done the pic exchange are confident the pic is them then you can start talking on the phone. You want to get an idea of his voice and his speaking tone. You can get a really good feel on how the guy will treat you. You can't fake it too much when you are talking on the phone. Don't give out too much about yourself. Let the guy do most of the talking. Ask a lot of questions. Ask how his family, work, etc.
Step 10: Once you are talking buddies don't ask too much about prior relationships. If you notice that the guy is talking about his ex girlfriend the whole time on the phone, stay clear of him. He probably still has feelings for her. You don't want to be his rebound.
Step 11: Once you are past talking on the phone and you are confident that you want to meet this person, make arrangements to meet in a public place. Never meet at your house, never meet at his house, always pick a nice open public place. Also a good idea is if you are new to this avenue of dating, you should tell a friend who and where you are meeting this guy. Someone whould always know your whereabouts. Just in case this person turns out to be a litte ....... I will let you fill in the blank.
Step 12: If you meet this person and you hit it off, that's great. DO NOT GO HOME WITH THIS PERSON. Remember they are still a stranger. The nest thing to do is have a nice date and say goodnight. Make a date for another night and see how it goes.
Step 13: If it turns out that he was the one, that's wonderful. If it turns out he wasn't, then don't get discouraged. Go back to the computer and go to the next one. Remember it took me 2 years to find the one.

Pieces of advice:
Take it slow. Enjoy the online dating experience. I had such a blast doing this. I highly recommend this to anyone who is having trouble meeting someone special. You will have highs and lows. Some dates will be better than others. Sometimes I would come home at night and think, no more. I will become the next cat lady and be done with this whole nightmare. But then other nights I would come home and think, wow, that was so much fun. I can't wait to see him again. There are so many dating websites out there right now. When I started this 9 years ago I didn't have as many options as you have now. From what I have seen there are the following online websites:

Love at Aol
EHarmony
Match.com
JDate (Jewish dating)
and so much more.

I wish you the best of luck and be careful.
I would write more but my 2 year old son just woke up from his nap. You see it does work!!!!!!!!!