Ice Breakers for Women on a First Date

Going on a first date is a nail-biting experience for many a woman. You have to make sure you are dressed nicely, yet not overdress. You are nervous about spending an evening with a man whom you barely know, or maybe do not know at all. If you are a single mom, you will have to find reliable babysitting and at the same time ensure that your children are ready for the next day with respect to homework, assignments, and also clean school clothes.

It is not surprising that in the midst of this another nerve wracking thought suddenly crosses your mind: what will you talk about? You have probably already been on a date where the conversation was more like a game of "20 Questions" than a relaxed and cheerful conversation of two people who are getting to know each other. If you want to create this kind of atmosphere on your net first date, here are some ice breakers women can use:
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Avoid the three deadly topics of politics, religion, and childrearing. At least at the beginning of your date you should stay clear of such controversial topics and stay with safe topics, such as pets, gardening, travel, and literature. As your date progresses, you will find out more about the man on the other side of the table, and then you might be able to venture into the deeper waters of the more risky conversation topics.
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Fish for common interests but talking briefly about a few of your interests. This is not the time for a lengthy discourse on stamp collection, but instead just a few sentences - three of less - about a hobby or activity you enjoy. If you find that you and your date have this hobby or activity in common, you might continue talking about it.
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While it is true that people love to talk about themselves instead of others, it is important that you do not turn your date into a time where you tell your entire life story while your date cannot get a word in. Make sure that the conversation is give and take.
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If in the past you had numerous bad first dates where you and your date did nothing but stare at one another, it is best to simply avoid this pitfall once and for all by asking a best friend and her date to double with you. This will ease you into conversation gradually.