Identity Crisis in Our Youth

Her mother's heart would tighten every time the young girl walked out their front door, wearing sagging pants, a tank top and a baseball cap. The mother feared her daughter may never find her place in the world, if she wanted to be a boy. The one thing she feared more than this, was the fact that her daughter may have even taken up the sexual preference of a young boy, just as she'd snatched the identity of one.

But the young girl didn't recognize or appreciate the mother's anguish; she felt it was what all the other children were doing. Even the older girls in her neighborhood liked other girls; She didn't want to have sex with girls, but she just liked wearing boy clothes. And no matter how many times her mother came home with girls' clothing, the young girl still chose to put on her tank top, sagging pants and baseball caps.

I'm quite sure we all have witnessed the 'dilemma' of figuring out which is which: The difference between our young boys from the girls. It's a growing issue and who is at fault here? Normally we would want to blame 'hip-hop', or the entertainment that our children are exposed to; but I'm sorry to say, it's not. I have yet to hear a song promoting homosexuality, or boys wearing hair, earrings and other things that may suggest a feminine appeal; nor does it speak of young ladies banging baseball caps, while donning a 'wife-beater' (I've never cared much for that term as a piece of clothing, forgive me). So, my question again is where is all of this coming from? And an even bigger question would be: How do we take control of this situation?

I was listening to a radio segment on the issue of homosexuality being a 'fad'...is this true? And if so, when and how did it become a fad? I'm not sure of what to do if and when your child is touched, influenced or persuaded by this 'fad', but I will say the one thing many may inclined to do: Pray! And Pray Hard!

I may not be a professor, but I have had some Psychology in my education regiment. And I will say that usually a child may participate in this phase for attention. It may be a welcoming thing for you as a parent to be more involved with what your child is doing. Know their friends and the parents of those friends. This may not dissolve the issue, but it will give you a head start.

And to take this a step further, if those friends of your child may seem to be a negative influence, take a stand and execute your right of denying that child a friendship with those negative influences. You may a hard task at hand, but I'm quite sure it will help in the long run.

But before I close, I would like to know, what would you do if it were your child who had an Identity Crisis?