I'm in an Interracial Relationship
People Often Ask Me What it is like to Be in a Relationship that Many People in the World Don't Approve Of...Here's Our Story!
Well, that didn't quite happen the way I thought it would! I happened to meet and fall in love with my Jamaican husband years ago. I remember when I started dating him, thinking of how people would frown upon our relationship and people would shout out terrible comments. I remember after he proposed to me, I thought my parent's concern would be that he was a black man.
The world is not as bad as some people in interracial relationships make it out to be. My parents didn't think twice about the fact that my husband was a different race. They loved him regardless, just as I did. When I look at my husband, I don't see that he is a different skin color. I look at him and I see my husband. That is how the world should see any race. There is a person underneath what you think is DIFFERENT, but they aren't! A nurse once told me that she used to view races differently until one day it hit her...when she saw people getting cut open, they were all the same on the inside. Nothing was different!
From the day we've been married, we have never once been met with any prejudice. If we have, I haven't noticed. We have a wonderful family, too. We have two beautiful children. Being in an interracial marriage, your children pop out like a surprise...you don't have a clue how they are going to look. Will they be dark like my husband, or light? Will they have soft curly hair or will it be more coarse? It's a wonderful joy to give birth and see what God has created! Our son, you can definitely tell that he is from an interracial couple. He has beautiful tanned skin, and his eyes are as dark as black marbles. The best thing, his beautiful, soft, curly, brown hair. Now our daughter, on the other hand, she is a totally different brew! She popped out as white as the day. Her hair at birth was thick and dark brown, but it ended up falling out and is now growing back in with the same soft curls as our son, but her hair is almost blond! The best thing that she has...she has blue eyes. She has amazing blue eyes! She cannot be denied by either of us, because she looks like the both of us.
Now, I've said that we haven't been met with prejudice, but I must say, I'm not sure how the African American community views me. Many times, I've watched movies and the African American woman talks about how the white girls are taking their men. That tears a little bit at my heart, because for centuries, the African Americans have been fighting for equality, yet this is unacceptable to some of them. I guess that it is sided fairly equally. There are white people who think you should not mix races and there are African Americans who think the same.
We are surrounded by loving family, friends, and a church that strives to look like what Heaven will look like...a people of many races and ethnicities. Maybe me and my husband are a rare case to not be faced with severe prejudice. Maybe it is where we live that is not shrouded in it. I just feel that we are living in a world that is becoming a lot more "colorful" and learning that we need to just love the person within, and not the package.
Published by Amy Gayle
My name is Amy and I am the working mother of 2 beautiful children. I've been married for 7 years to Van who is Deaf. I worked as a sign language interpreter for 5 years until my son was born. I now work... View profile
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18 Comments
Post a CommentAs a black man, i think we should all stick to our own race. Interracial marrages and relationships all cause stress between our friends and families, both the white and black.There is enough stress in the world, why cause more.If you are a white girl or man, note there really is no difference between us, for instance black women are no more sensual than white women, aside from all the propaganda, in truth black mens penuses are no larger than a white mans. In agerage we are all the same. Its the color of our skin thats different, ( THATS ALL)
You have a beautiful marriage. Diversity is beautiful. And pleasing to God.
awww sweet!! u should post pics of your little sweethearts. i liked how u said u don't know how the children would've come out, it's so fun wondering who's gonna get what and being surprised! :-) great great article hun!
good article, its a blessing to have a wonderful family, healthy children and of course a good husband no matter what your ethnicities are.
Thank you for article. It's very article. It wouldn't surprise me if something like that happened to me, as far as marriage is considered. It'd probably take my parents a couple of months to get used to him though... But anywa, WTG!
I'm in an interracial relationship myself and it's sad that people still carry a high level of ignorance towards it. It's not going to go away and it's silly that some people rag on you for who you're with. If you're happy that's all that matters.
My wife is a beautiful black woman and I'm a white guy. We were married almost 5 months ago and we've been together for almost 4 years. I was afraid of people's comments and stares at first, but honestly we've never experienced any of them. We haven't had one incident, so thank God for that.
We wanted to do something for the interracial community, so we started a free forum/message board for people to discuss issues, post comments, view relevant videos + stories, meet new people, post a personal ad, advertise their business and have some fun. It's at http://www.mixedcouples.info so please check it out.
It sounds like you had these concerns that it would be like 1980 all over again, and then you realized that a lot of people are okay with interracial relationships and stuff isn't always how it is dramatized to be in the movies. Like it would be like "Save the last dance" or something. Some people have hangups, but those same people don't always treat others of the same race that great either, so you have to overlook that.
If i stopped dating or being friends with people because of what they looked like or where they come or how much money they had...I would be very very lonely.
Why does every black man have to be from the ghetto? Its attitudes like that which are stopping us from moving forward with racial acceptance in this country.Don't listen to those naysayers, the picture is beautiful, you both are beautiful, and your story is beautiful. I am also in an interracial relationship and its couples like you that inspire those of us in similar situations to keep going strong, despite what anyone thinks or says. I wish you both the best.