Importance of Feeling Loved

We all have different emotional needs and desires. Love is simply one of them; among love we need to have a sense of security, self-worth, and significance. Feeling loved by our spouses help us grow towards feeling those other things. When we feel loved the most we can relax and safe within the presence of our loved one. We have that sense of security within our lovers that all other things seem to fade away. While uncertainties and hardships may occur in life, when we feel loved, we feel like we can overcome anything life throws at us. Self worth is something we all strive for and hunt for, sometimes we can't find it on our own. We can find a sense of self worth through our spouse's love for us. When we feel loved by our spouse, then we feel like we are worth something as well.

Our desire for our emotional needs drives our behavior and how we act towards different circumstances. We want our lives to count for something according to Dr. Gary Chapman, and when we have that feeling of self worth, we feel like we make a difference in someone's life, that we are significant to at least one person. Many times we do not feel significant until someone expresses their love to us. Sometimes we know we matter to our friends and family, but it takes a significant other to express their love for us that makes us feel like we have worth and matter something to the world. We tend to find meaning in life when we feel loved by someone special to us. Feeling loved gives us the ability to boast our self esteem and gives us the confidence to accomplish anything. We feel like we have the potential to do anything we set our minds too.

Some think love is the answer to everything, to every problem that may occur, but it isn't. Love just enables us to handle conflict better. Conflicts will arise in life as well as relationships, but those conflicts can be resolved and we work to resolve them through our love for each other. Many times when we feel loved by someone else, they are able to bring out the best in us, and we in them. When we choose to love someone and be loved, we learn their strengths and weaknesses and support them. Too often relationships get set into a rut, a routine. That is when the work comes in and trying to keep things from being a routine. While when we feel loved and appreciated we feel we are worth the world, but when we don't feel loved and appreciated, well we feel worthless and undesirable, that is when most relationships turn south and nine times out of ten: end.

When we fall in love there is like a euphoric feeling, like we are walking on clouds and nothing could go wrong. We feel the other person has no flaws, that they are perfect in every way; but that feeling fades and we struggle to feel loved sometimes, which in turn takes away our sense of security, self worth, and significance. We begin to irritate each other and sometimes come to resent our lovers. But when we begin to make the effort to make sure our lovers feel loved, desired, and special things change and it is like we first fell in love once more. Love can conquer all and can last forever, but it does take work to do some. We have make sure our love lasts instead of letting it fall in the routine of things.

When we feel in love and loved we have this ecocentric idea that all of our needs will be met and we can meet all the needs of the person we are in love with. We feel like we will and can do anything to meet our spouse's needs and to keep them happy. We see ourselves making sacrifices to make one another happy, but then that euphoric feeling fades and we start wondering when we got into a rut or that "comfort level." It gets hard to feel loved and that feeling of doing anything we need to make one another happy tends to fade and there could be the feeling of wondering what we could be getting from the relationship.

Love is a feeling that can make us feel secure, self worth, and boasts our self esteem. Feeling loved gives us the sense that we are worth something in this crazy world. We all have the carnal desire to feel loved, secure, and worth something, and many times we seek it from other people. When it comes to feeling those things through feeling loved, it is something we need to work on with our spouses and acknowledge needs to be done, instead of taking our love for granted.