Important Questions to Ask Your Partner Before Getting Married

It really amazes me to hear that many married couples do not end up having a number of important conversations with each other prior to marriage. After you have walked down the wedding aisle, is definitely not the time to find out you don't agree on a essential life topics.

Avoiding important conversations in order to evade a potential fight or a break-up is not the way to go. You need to know now how your partner feels about kids, how many you each want to have and when, how you will raise them and the general agreed upon rules you may have in the house, what your stances are on political and religious platforms, retirement plans, life insurance plans, how you feel on a potential move for a once in a lifetime job offer, discussing the possibility of having to take in a sick or elderly family member, etc.

Having these discussions will avoid a lot of heartache, disappointments, fights, and general unhappiness. The worst thing to find out is that your partner is expecting to have a child within the next year and you wanted to wait 5 years. You don't want to find out until after you're married that your partner does not believe in life insurance or retirement plans and you yourself come from a family where that was just a given. Finding out that your partner is for or against political platforms that you adamantly disagree with, to a level that you could not possibly live with a person that thinks a certain way is a problem.

These conversations need to be discussed during your courtship. They can come about naturally or asked point blank, but it needs to be done. Avoiding topics in order not to step on toes or not wanting to be bothered with an hour long conversation is not the solution. This is what your courtship is for, to find out everything you want to know and should know about your significant other. It could potentially save your relationship.

Taking your relationship and marriage seriously will only benefit you in the long run. Make it a priority to have things in order so that you know that your partner is the right person for you. It is going to be a very long marriage and you do not want to find out important things too late. Peace of mind is everything.