Initiating the Flirt

Now the pick up is all about getting into a conversation. Conversations are all about flirting. Flirting is where a lot of the fun happens. Here is a fun little example from my personal life. So I saw this girl. She was sitting there reading a book.

So I decided to mess with her a little bit. I came in and I sat down next to her. (I'm a college student and we were in class waiting for the professor to arrive.) I sat there and I would look over at her from time to time. And I just tried to make myself seem a little annoyed. More so each time I looked over at her. She was so enthralled in her book that she didn't even notice. People around us started to notice.

Finally, I couldn't take it. I wanted to talk to this girl. So I broke the silence with a comment way out of left field. I said "Could you stop that? It's really starting to bug me."

She looked at me like, what did I do. In fact she even said, "What did I do?"

I turned to her and said, "You're reading and it's very distracting." Now what the heck is that? Since when is reading distracting to anyone? So, she obviously looked at me like I was kind of nuts, but in a good way.

She asked me something to the effect of how is her reading possibly distracting me. And that's where I turned the experience into a positive. I said, "for the past 5 minutes you have been reading that book, and you looked absolutely enthralled by it. I have to know what that book is about."

She spent the rest of the time we had (until the professor arrived) describing how the book was recommended to her by her little sister, and how it was kind of a teenaged level book and that how I, that is me Ryan, probably wouldn't be into it because it is below me. And on and on.

From that point I had a million things that I could use to continue the conversation. I teased her some more and by the end of the exchange, I had a phone number. It really is that simple. The way that it works is that you just start a conversation. It could be something as simple as standing at a red light, and you turn to the girl that is standing next to you and say, "I hate these lights, they always take forever." Boom! You are in a conversation. Begin flirting.

My next bit of advice is just go out there and do it. Just start random conversations. Who knows where they will lead. Stop somebody on the street and ask where the closest place to grab a bite to eat is. And then invite them to go with.