Internet Dating Relationship - The Internet Mistress

The world of dating online often throws curveballs. The game exists and often confuses and frustrates its players. In that, it is similar to dating in the real world. Now, the cyber-dating scene introduces its slider. We all understand the easy access available to married people looking for extra-marital excitement. 74% of married people on the internet will get involved in an online affair as reported by a recent survey.

This statistic is not one that has gone unnoticed, however, in recent years a new trend has begun. Married men looking for internet mistresses and those women enter the relationship willingly with the understanding that it is purely online.

The first thought is that being purely online can be harmless, but digging deeper into these occurrences reveals that these willing mistresses agree that they cannot date anyone else, either online or in the real world. Rules are often put upon them that dictate who they can talk to, and what they must do if their online lover is logged in.

As adults, we often look the other way when this occurs. When the situation becomes one that involves a triangle, it increases the dramatic proportions of negativity and hurt feelings. It is a common understanding that extra-marital affairs often end badly, and no one escapes the situation without their fair share of the pain. In this cyber-world of dating, the choices become so limitless that often what occurs is that the mistress meets another man and clings to him, developing an emotional attachment to him in order to escape the hurt and guilt of her present relationship.

It is in this inning, this half, of the game that the slider occurs. The single male, or for that matter female, must be aware of the consequences of getting involved with an internet mistress. These women are often filled with depression and low self-esteem. The level of these problems dictates that they cannot make coherent decisions regarding their dating life. Often, when choices need to be made, they will make the wrong ones and the single male interest is affected.

Having interviewed several of these willing mistresses, one common theme has risen from the discussions. No matter the pre-existing problem, that causes their issues with dating and men, these women feel that it is safer to get involved with a married man on the internet. It allows them the feelings of attachment combined with the satisfaction of their need for attention while not encroaching on their personal life.

Most often, the relationship ends badly and the self-deprecating decisions continue, as the willing mistress will most often immediately jump into another relationship with yet another married person. So what does this mean for the average internet dater?

The problem that occurs is that, at some point, the mistress will meet you, the single and available person, and develop an interest. The common theme is that her interest develops out of a need for close companionship that is not hampered by the byproducts of having an affair. She can have fun and not deal with the pains of having to "share" her man with anyone else.

Make no mistake, though, this situation can be just as hurtful as any affair. The internet mistress is not interested in true availability and taking a relationship to an offline status. Her only interest is filling her need for affection. This often will cause arguments based on the relationship being treated as a one-way street. While the single male is doing all the giving, the internet mistress is doing all the taking and rarely concerns herself with others feelings.

Internet dating is one where communication and trust are paramount. However, as often seen, internet dating lacks these very important factors. Before engaging in a relationship with an internet mistress, have an understanding of what would cause a woman to engage willingly in an ultimately dissatisfying relationship with a married man online and how it will affect your interest in her. This is truly one example of the roller coaster right that is internet dating. Please make sure you are tall enough to ride.