Interracial Relationships and Racism
I can speak from personal experience being a Caucasian woman in a relationship with an Asian man. To us our relationship feels very normal, we see each other as human beings. Sadly, the rest of the world doesn't feel the same as we do. When we go out somewhere for a simple errand such as grocery shopping I notice looks of disgust coming from others. I've learned in time to ignore it the best I can.
What I deal with is relatively small however compared to the treatment some couples receive. A Caucasian and African-American relationship tends to get the worst racial response. I can only assume that this is due to the more extreme skin tone colors. There have been many cases of racists going to the extremes of vandalizing the property of these couples.
Why must love have so many rules placed behind it? Love should be color blind. It is about being happy with the person you are with, treating each other with respect, and cherishing the time you spend together.
After doing research on the Internet, I've found the perfect site where real people were posting their views on interracial relationships. The site is Yahoo! Answers, where anyone is able to post their opinions about topics. What I came to find was quite disgusting, it was truly an eye opener on the hate existing in our society.
Below are a few quotes from individuals who I will keep anonymous:
"Everywhere I go there is a new interracial couple popping up; it disgusts me. Don't people understand that diversity does not exist if we all become one mixed race? If the colors run together on a flag or a rainbow, you no longer have a multicolored beautiful flag, just one ugly mixed/blurred color. How can people say they are proud of their heritage or race while watering that down and not sharing yourself with some one from your own background ? If a person was meant to mate with someone of another race, they would have been born that other race, why do you think there are two sexes per race ?"
"I am white and I do not think it is right to mix things up. It even says something about it in the Bible."
"Asian men have no place in USA. In the eyes of most American women an Asian man is somehow defective and sinful."
"White women are not attracted to Asian males due to their small man hoods..It has nothing to do with the media.."
"Why I don't like interracial relationships? Because it offends all decent people, like watching white women with monkeys. It disgusts us all. Want to know why there are no Arabs or Asians in Star Trek...IT IS SET IN THE FUTURE."
People need to leave those in love alone and stop trying to interfere or push them apart. The rude comments and stares are petty and immature. The world is so full of hate that one would think to see two people in love should be refreshing. We are all essentially made of the same elements, so to judge a book by it's cover is simply ridiculous. With all of the wars going on in the world, the thing we need the most right now is love. It comes in all shapes, forms, and colors and hopefully some day people will open their eyes and realize this.
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Post a CommentMixing races well rounds the individual people in that relationship and their children. It can be difficult to accept new cultures but on the other side very fun! "Our greatist joy and pain comes from realtionships" Plus God is definatly not against interracial marriage, it's more non believer with believer. :)
@ Disgusted: I am a very successful white woman, happily married to a white man -- HOWEVER, that being said...I must say that I have never read such ignorance coming from another individual. You choose not to be friends with other races because you have nothing in common with them? That is simply absurd! So basically, you're saying that all blacks, asians, spanish individuals behave in a "specific manner"...in other words, pinning them by RACE...aka racism! We are unique because of who we are and how we present ourselves. I hate to break it to you, but by saying interracial "breeding" ruins how we are all unique is just foolish. Does mixing races not create a new 'uniquness'? It's people like you who breed negativity within the world. If the world had more LOVE in it, regardless of what color two people are, we would be in a much better place. You speak of others "cramming their belief" of interracial relationships down your throat, yet her
Just one more thing, I would like to ask a question to all those that accept interracial relationships..
Why would you support such an effort to water down the races when its our differences that is what make us all unique?
Thank you for your time and I hope I gave some people something to ponder...God Bless and good day
A girl in my office, race not important, but she said that interracial relationship is double edge sword. On one hand, they look at it as a slap in the face because people of their race date and marry outside. However, on the other hand the people that do go outside the race no one inside their race sees them as date-able or marriage material anyway.
You know what strikes me as an American, that to have a belief is to hold something very personal and close to your heart. However, if this belief goes against a "race" then its racism. When did having a belief that others may not understand or even accept becoming racism.
Also, on the topic of interracial relationships, for one I do not appreciate others that are ok with it to cram it down my family's throat. Just because I wish for my children to make good judgements doesn't mean I am being a racist. I don't associate with other races mainly because our backgrounds are very different and in my opinion we have nothing in common, but that still doesn't make me a racist.
However, I do work with people of all sorts of different backgrounds and culture and what is shocking to me is that main stream tries to show that interracial relationships is accepted by everyone but white. I was surprise to see just how frown upon it is among other races.
I'm a white female dating a black male. It's hard but I knew this coming into the relationship. My family is mostly Italian. Meaning they have been brought up to be extremely racist. I've had to deal with comments from both sides of my family throughout these last 3 years. I havent been able to bring him to family parties, my own prom pictures 3 years ago, summer pool parties at my aunts house, etc. It used to bother me, but now i have slowly begun to firmly stand up for myself and for the person i love. It hurts me most that family members can put someone down (my boyfriend) that they have never met before and consider him to be "dirt." Eventually, im sure i will marry this man...and although my dream is to have a huge wedding where my family LOVES my husband, i will not throw such a strong love away because of others opinions. I think it is a shame that people are not supportive to their own daughter or cousin because of someone they fell in love with. You cant
In my life experience, I have noticed that those who are insecure, uninformed, inadequate or socially inept tend to have a problem with interracial relationships.
If this individual had ever seen a Star Trek episode, he would have noticed that among the crew members of all races and species, Mr. Zulu (an Asian) was a key member of the crew.
The irrational fear of everyone mixing into one race is based on ignorance. Every "race" we see on the planet originated in Africa. Yes, we were all one race in the beginning.
Like any social development, exposure has a lot to do with a person's positive or negative attitude towards interracial relationships. Stateside military installation in California or Virginia for instance, has large numbers people in interracial relationships. These couples are respected and at worse, ignored.
When I see an interracial couple, the first word that comes to mind is "choice"......you know, Freedom of Choice.......the American
its nice to know that there are other people in my situation, im white and my boyfriend is black. It was probably the hardest thing ive ever had to do, telling him my dad doesnt want me dating outside of my race, but its made us closer. Ive been with him for a year now and my dad still doesnt know about him, its really hard cuz i dont get to see him much, but i wouldnt trade my relationship with him for anything. Shakespeare once said 'the course of true love never did run smooth' I think all of us in the situation can relate :)
I'm asian/white( most times people think I'm some kind of a spanish descended) and my hubby is black(jamaican). Been married to him for over 15 years now! We have 3 scrumptious kids! Oh boy, do we get the stares. It just all depends on where we go too. But in my experience, it's the black women and the white elderly I see who have the issues when they see my hubby and I out in public together(we can get it from any race, but those are the ones we get it from more often than others), then if we're seen together as a whole family, we get a mixed response... with stares. For me being mixed, I never saw color. But I do see the ignorance of the world more than ever, than I did younger(I was in la-la land). I believe that's due to me being a parent. There are times I get upset with the stares... but I have to remember how blessed I am and take a look at what God has given to me. I would not ask for any different. I have had my shares of fitting in during adoles
I am a black woman married to a white man and we have been married for 2 years. Really I don't care what people think good, bad or indifferent. I love him and he loves me. If anyones has a problem with this it is their problem. Love is the basis for everything. We respect you, and you should respect us. If not, no love lost on our part, but you may be missing out on a great pair of friends! God does not see color, why should we? Are we saying that we know better than Him? Be careful...