Is Your Flirting Dishonoring Your Spouse?

I can't tell you how many times I have heard over my lifetime, someone saying that old cliche "I'm married not dead", when it came to flirting with someone other than their spouse. Yes, there are some cliches that are funny, and appropriate, although i wouldn't include this cliche in either one of those categories.

Sometimes I wonder if we have forgotten what love is all about. We have become such an overly sexual society, it seems like anything goes, no matter who it hurts. I am quite frankly sick to death of the freedom of expression excuse. When was it we forgot that the reason we married this person was that we loved, and hopefully respected them. Now, I'm not saying that people don't have thoughts that maybe they shouldn't now and again, but that doesn't mean it has to be acted upon. Sure maybe it's not hurting you, the one doing the flirting, but what about your spouse? What is it saying to them? Most people are very human beings, meaning we do get hurt, and we do have feelings. So, ask yourself this, why is the freedom to flirt more important to you, than the feelings of the person you supposedly love?

Not only can flirting with others hurt the one you love, it can set up a planting of a seed of doubt in the mind of your spouse. What I mean by this is, why are you striking a match, if you don't want to start a fire? Sometimes things done in innocence and fun can lead to something more. When most people flirt with others, especially if their married, they are really thinking inside that, this will be the end of it, gone and forgotten, no big deal. Unfortunately, sometimes you get more than you bargain for. Then all of a sudden you are put in a situation that's tempting as well as confusing. After all you never thought she would really take the flirting seriously and ask you out for a drink, and yes, possibly more. Now what are you going to do?

Oh sure, a lot of people say flirting when you are married is innocent. However, I wonder how many times that simple flirting did turn into more, and was a temptation that couldn't be resisted. You may be saying right now, that you flirt but would never do anything more than that. This is usually said by those who haven't crossed the bridge so to speak. In other words a sexy young woman, or a virile young man hasn't offered anything more than a wink up until now. Yeah, yeah, I know you have a good marriage and it would never happen. Well, my question is, why are you digging in someone else's garden when you already have one of your own? Here's another cliche that's just as valid as the "I'm married, not dead" one, "Don't start something you can't finish".

Since the beginning of time flirting has been used as a viable way for people to meet each other and let the other person know you are interested. This works out quite well when you are single and available. However, I still question why any married person would flirt with someone that isn't there spouse? You are number one not available, and most importantly, you have made a commitment to the one you love. Quite frankly, it's not fair with the one the married person is flirting with either.Most often they don't know the other person is married, and is basically being used for moment of pleasure in the mind of the flirter, only to be quickly dismissed, at least I hope so. It doesn't sound like it to me that anyone in the situation benefits at all, except for maybe the selfish flirter!

In the end the most important thing to consider is, are you honoring, and respecting your spouse when you flirt with others? I already know what the selfish, inconsiderate people are thinking. I'm just hoping there's more sposes that know, that true love includes respect, consideration, and honor toward one's spouse!

**FYI: If you haven't already done so, seeing the movie "Fire Proof" with your spouse can be a big step in creating a great marriage for you and the one you love!