Is Keeping Your Ex Around a Good Idea?

Are you having troubles letting go of your ex? If you are, then you are not alone. Many people in the world today believe that holding on to your ex is a good idea, even if you are in a new relationship. Psychic Stephen Piperno writes in his book, "Is Life Worth It? Sex, Money and Power from a Psychics Point of View" that this is not such a good idea. Holding onto your ex will give you more problems than what it is worth.

You may be thinking to yourself that you and your ex are now broken up, but why should you stop talking to them. After all, isn't having friendship a good thing? It is if you have never had sex with the other person. Sex crosses some big lines. Sexual intimacy is to close of a connection to ever be looked at as just having a friend. The moment that you engage in a sexual encounter with someone, you are creating a permenent attatchment with them. If you seperate yourself from them, you will cry, get angry and probaly say to yourself that it isn't fair. Many people in the world today have an ex that they are still in contact with and it may be hard to let go of them.

The first sign that you should avoid an ex at all costs is if you are considering dating them again. Remember that you dumped them or they dumped you for a specific reason. Perhaps you were just a "booty call" or an "in-between" relationship for them. Maybe you are just someone that they like, but not that much. No matter what the reason is, you got dumped or you dumped them. Either way, it was not a good enough relationship for the both of you to feel like you were good enough. It is important to cut off your ex because you do not want to show your potential partner or your present partner that you have some unfinished baggage from your past.

The first thing that an ex will say to you is, "why are you still talking to them? Do you have feelings for them?" The thought of you being intimate with your ex will also come to surface. You may be accused of sleeping with them again or you may be accused of wanting to get them back. Either way, it is going to ruin your chances of being with another person. The worst thing that anyone can hear is, "I just got a phone call from my ex and they want to hang out with me next weekend." This is something that you do not want to tell your partner. This will scare them away and have them running away from you.

You must learn to sever all ties from an ex because they will only bring you more harm then good. If you are not over them yet, then reconcile with them before you get involved in another relationship. Nobody wants to feel like you are still holding onto past baggage. If you still have feelings for an ex, then you should not move onto another relationship. You should first see if their is a possibility for you and the ex to get back together again. No matter what happens, you must see for yourself what the outcome should be.

In my opinion, holding onto an ex lover only brings you more problems. Learn to let go of your past by going to counseling or speaking to a psychic. A great place to get a psychic reading is on infiniteadvice.com. The more that you get over your past, the more that you will be able to grow into a healthy and loving relationship again.