Is it Love or Lust? A Quiz to Help You Distinguish Between the Two in Your New Relationship

A. I think about him every minute of every day

B. I think about him when I see or hear something that reminds me of him.

C. He's always in the back of my mind...

D. Out of sight, out of mind!

2. Does thinking about him get in the way of your daily activities?

A. No because all my daily activities revolve around him

B. Sometimes my thoughts distract me, but I don't get too far off track.

C. When I think about him I want to do a better job and be a better person.

D. Not at all.

3. Do you get ornery and depressed when you go more than a few hours without seeing or talking to him?

A. Of course! Every minute I'm not with him is not worth living.

B. No, the longer we've been apart the easier it is for me to focus on my day.

C. I miss him, but we are usually sending each other short messages throughout the day if we can't get together, so it doesn't ever feel like we've been apart for a long time.

D. If I'm not with him, I'm usually with someone else.

4. What do your friends think of him?

A. They avoid being around us when we're together. In fact, they are starting to avoid me when we're apart now too...

B. They like him but don't really know him that well.

C. They all really like him and they usually invite him along when we're all getting together.

D. My friends haven't really met him yet.

5. What do his friends think of you?

A. I don't know. We don't spend time with his friends any more. They must be really busy lately.

B. He tells me that they like me, but we don't all get together very often.

C. They must like me because they invite both of us to hang out with them.

D. I wouldn't know. I don't think I've ever met any of his friends.

6. How do you spend your time when you are together?

A. Kissing...or more!

B. Go to dinner, see a movie, make out for a while...the usual routine.

C. We do everything! We love sports, movies, dancing, talking...and the kissing is great, too.

D. We make out. Why else would we be together?

7. How do you spend your time when you are apart?

A. I think about how long it will be before I see him again and obsess about what he's doing and who he's with if he isn't with me.

B. I spend it doing whatever needs to be done to catch up on life.

C. I want him to be proud of me, so when we are apart I am working hard on being the best me I can be.

D. My time is spent the same way, just with someone else.

8. Do you get jealous when he spends time with other people?

A. Insanely jealous. All his time should be spent with me and me alone!

B. Only when he spends time alone with other girls. That's not right.

C. No. I trust him completely, and I know he trusts me.

D. Should I be jealous?

9. What is your favorite thing about him?

A. He has such an amazing body! Everything about it is perfect.

B. Arms and abs...no complaints there!

C. I love his eyes. They really are the windows to his soul.

D. He has really nice hair. No, wait, that's my other boyfriend...

10. How many dates did you go on before the two of you kissed?

A. Dates? We were kissing long before we were dating.

B. We kissed on the first date.

C. We went on quite a few unofficial dates before we went on a "real" date, but he did finally kiss me then.

D. We don't date. Just kiss.

ANSWER KEY:

Mostly A's: Slow down before you hurt someone! Hate to break it to you, but you are stuck in the "lust" stage and not getting anywhere close to "love." Unless you can calm down and learn to behave like a normal human being when it comes to this guy, your relationship is headed for disaster.

Mostly B's: You definitely haven't hit the "love" point, but with a few key changes in your relationship you have a shot at it. Try talking more and making out less. If you can handle a deeper relationship, you could really turn your relationship into something long-term, but it will take some work.

Mostly C's: You probably don't need to hear it from me, but I think you're in love! Congratulations! If the two of you keep your relationship moving in such a positive direction you can really enjoy some lasting happiness in your life. Just remember that love doesn't solve everything, you still have to work at it. But, if you wake up every day and remember why it is that you love him so much then you will enjoy an even stronger relationship down the road than you have today.

Mostly D's: Why did you even take this quiz? Come back and try again when you are only dating one guy...