Is Your Man Losing Interest?

If you're reading this article, you probably have some suspicions about the legitimacy of your man's feelings for you. A bad feeling in your gut is telling you that something just isn't quite right. Instincts are powerful messengers and if you feel that your man is not interested or losing interest, there's a good chance that you might be right. However, it really all depends on the situation and the specifics of the relationship. Some women are insecure due to things that happened in previous relationships or even in their childhood. Such women might need constant reassurance that their man is indeed interested.

If you haven't been in a relationship for long, or are still in the dating phase, there is a chance that your man is just shy and will take a bit of coaxing to bring out of his shell. On the other hand, if you've been in a relationship for a considerable amount of time, say 2-3 years, it is not uncommon for couples to reach a point in their relationship where things become a little stale. Often, couples become comfortable and some of the passion fades away. It is possible that you have reached this point. However, it may also be an indication that you have grown apart and either are not making the effort to keep your love alive or are just simply not meant to be.

If your man is usually very attentive and affectionate and suddenly becomes distant, there may be cause for concern. If he no longer wants to spend time together, doesn't answer your calls, doesn't show up when he says he will or doesn't want to be intimate, there is a chance that he has lost interest or met someone else.

However, that being said, it is very important in situations like these that you DON'T JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS! Generally, when it comes to romantic relationships, open and honest communication is always the best way to go. However, this situation is rather tricky. You might bring up your concerns to you man and find that he is completely unaware of the situation. He might confide in you that he has been particularly stressed at work or distracted by family conflicts. He might be apologetic for any behaviors that might have led you to this conclusion and reassure you that he could not be more interested in you. However, he may find such questioning to be annoying and offensive and react in a way that makes you feel even more insecure about your relationship. If he has been distant for whatever reason, this might push him even further away. As you can see, whether or not to bring up your concerns is a difficult decision to make. However, communication is the key to any successful relationship and playing games never got anyone anywhere. Do be very careful about how you bring up the topic. Don't scream accusations at him and berate him for being the most terrible husband/boyfriend in the world. Stay calm and speak in nonthreatening terms.

If there's absolutely no way that you can discuss your concerns with you man, another option is talking to your friends or family. Often times, those outside a relationship see things very differently than you do as someone in the relationship. Sometimes this means they see things more clearly, because they are not blinded by love. You might make excuses for your man and see things how you wish they were, rather than how they actually are. However, this plan can backfire as well because your friends and family are not always objective observers. Obviously, its probably not a good idea to talk to someone who has made it known that they are not a fan of your man - no matter what they will see him in a negative light. There is also the possibility that your friend is secretly harboring feelings for your guy and would like to see the two of you break it off (hey, things like that really do happen). Also, some women tend to vent to their friends when they are having relationship troubles, but rarely rave about things when everything is going well. The result is a friend who has a misleading picture of your relationship. All that being said, an outside opinion is almost always a good idea. Just be sure not to but too much emphasis on what others think.

As you can see, there's really no way to know if your man is interested unless you ask him point-blank. However, there are always clues. Pay attention to how much time you spend together, how often you have sex, how often he touches you or kisses you, and whether or not you still engage in meaningful conversations. If there has been a huge shift in his behavior recently, there is a chance that it may not have anything to do with you at all. It might be due to things going on in his life outside of your relationship. However, if there is an abundance of evidence that says he's not into you anymore and you can't get that bad feeling out of your gut, then it's time to face the music.