Is Your Partner Marriage Material?

Melissa Q
There was a story on the morning news that really caught my attention. It was about the science of love. This may be helpful for those of you who may be trying to figure out if your partner is marriage material or not. It seems that many scientist and psychologist have come to an agreement about some important factors that determine whether you are with the right person or not. The report said that there have been "new studies to prove that it may be less about romance and more about science and that it all boils down to your five senses."

Your 5 senses, lets review. Touch, Sight, Smell, Taste, and Hearing.

So now there are actual scientific findings that show that what we think of as wanting to fall in love is actually driven by the desire to reproduce for both women and men. Helen Fisher a Rutgers University anthropology professor said "You slowly winnow out those individuals who don't look the part, feel the part, touch the part and you are left with the kind of person who you think is right for you.

Researchers also say there is some truth to "love at first sight."

"A high forehead, big eyes, a small nose, certainly clear skin. All of these things suggest youth because that's the way a baby looks," said Jeffrey Kluger, the science editor at Time magazine. Ok, but thats not all. The report also says that there is also "love at first taste and smell." The GMA reporter also said that "The first kiss can literally serve as a taste test for true love." Kluger said that when a man kisses a woman for the FIRST time he releases testosterone in his saliva which act as a natural aphrodisiac for the woman. Kluger compared this wonderful and natural event to "a man sort of slipping a chemical mickey on a woman." Romantic isn't it? This kiss can also determine whether or not the man and woman are compatible enough to reproduce healthy babies. If their genes are too similar it could cause problems for the woman and may not allow for the woman to be able to carry the baby to term.

And here is where the story gets a little more interesting. They said that "the most primal indicator of attraction comes from your nose." They said that a persons partner has to smell right. And they are not talking about that fancy cologne or perfume they wear. The scientist are talking about a humans natural pheromones or chemicals that are constantly being produced by the body. The chemicals, like testosterone are not seen and don't smell outwardly and strong to your nose, its a smell that we are not conscious of. All a human or any mammal knows is, that there is something about the opposite sex that drives them wild.

Pheromones are also involved with a womans monthly cycle. For example, the scientist did a study on exotic dancers, and it shows that, "women who were ovulating while dancing or working made an average of $70 in tips an hour. Those who were in the non-fertile part of their cycle only made $35." Isn't that interesting?

There is one part of this report that I found to be the most interesting and by far one of the most important.

Because we as human mammals make and release these clusters of hormones naturally and have been doing so since the beginning of time, we have to be careful about the unnatural chemicals we put into our bodies. The disturbing part is, that women who are on birth control pills have their natural hormones and pheromones all out of "wack". Birth control pills are essentially altering a womans natural hormone reproduction. Because of this, many women are picking the wrong mates.

The report said that, the altered hormones can lead a woman to be attracted to a man while on the pills and un-attracted to that very same man while off the pills. I know this news will surely make some women reevaluate the relationship that they are in.

I'm not sure what advice to give women single or married about the topic of birth control pills, but, what I can do is hopefully give you an insight into why you may hate a man 3 weeks out of a month and then love him to death the other week, or visa versa. Either way, it may be a good thing to think about, if your not sure about your relationship. You can ask your self, is this person the right one for me, did I pick him naturally or unnaturally? I hope what you just read was interesting and most of all, I really hope it was helpful. I believe in the natural science of nature. Don't get me wrong I believe in GOD with all my heart, but I also believe that God made us with these chemicals as a way to find our true soul mates naturally.

Published by Melissa Q

I am a full time mother of two beautiful girls ages 12 and 5 and a 11 month old baby boy! I am a part time freelance writer, and poet. Poetry is not a big part of my writing but its something I enjoy very m...  View profile

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  • mimpi1/9/2009

    I think this is very interesting revelation! Loved it!

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