Is Premarital Sex: A Curse for Society?

Let's consider the example of Western countries. People are very free. There is no time or space for the old family customs or traditions. Only 20% Westerners still adhere to their old family customs and traditions. But this is not the case with the concept of 'premarital sex'. Premarital sex has become an everyday thing for all Westerners. Infact virgins are criticised. It has become a shame to acknowledge one's virginity. The outcome - people are never satisfied. Their daily schedule starts with the determination to find a better sexual partner. If they find one and get married, 60% people are satisfied with their marriage but may never leave a chance to sneak out and betray their partners. This is due to their past habit of changing so many sexual partners. When they get caught, it usually results in divorce or separation. The biggest sufferers are the children. The people who do not marry continue with their obsession and die in old people homes alone. The lives of single parents are not easy. Managing work and children is an extremely difficult task. Hence people depend on antidepressants and other medicines. The children suffer too, due to the feeling of insecurity. Most of them develop psychological problems, or start taking drugs.

Let's consider the people who get married and why most of the marriages do not succeed. For a marriage to succeed there are many factors apart from sexual relationship - love, sacrifice, adjustment etc. Let's imagine a marriage has all these factors. But is it easy for a person to change his habit of sleeping with different people? Most of the people do have control over themselves but many do not. Hence they are prone to commit mistakes. So the success rate of a marriage reduces to the chance of getting caught. However advanced a society is, women do not accept their husband cheating on them and neither do men. So what's the use of highly advanced views in the beginning when at the end expectation is same as the people with old orthodox views?

Let's consider the example of India (Asian country). In Indian society, a girl is considered of good moral character if she is a virgin before marriage and did not have even a love affair with some one else. Though concepts are changing in the metropolitan cities, 75% of Indian cities have the same old concept. Before evaluating whether this concept needs modification or reformation we should consider other facts too. A virgin Indian girl after marriage dedicates her entire life to her husband and family. In Indian society there still exist joint families. In mostly 70 % cases the son stays in his parent's house with his wife, even after marriage. The children are exposed to a very comfortable family culture and a loving upbringing. With grandparents and parents always present, the sense of security is very strong. Hence children who do not stay in metropolitan cities are less likely to turn to drugs and other bad habits. Seeing harmony and love in the family, children less likely neither turn into psychopaths nor develop psychological diseases. The mother is contended, since she never had any sexual relationship before, her husband is her soul mate and her family is her soul priority.

How do the Westerners differentiate them from the prostitutes? Prostitutes in return take money, while the others in return seek enjoyment. Basically it's hard to differentiate.

Lets try to eliminate the root of the sufferings instead of treating the symptoms.