Is Your Relationship on Cruise Control?

I recently read a story about a man who sued a motor home manufacturer after he had an accident. It seems that this gentleman set out on his first weekend excursion and drove onto the highway. After an hour or so he got hungry and decided to try out the new cruise control contraption. You guessed right, he set the cruise control and then got out of his seat, went to the kitchen and proceeded to make a sandwich. The road went left and of course the motor home didn't.

Now many of you are probably saying, what an idiot. But how many people get married and start rolling down the street of life, set their relationship on cruise control and then wind up in a court room blaming their spouse for running their marriage off the road.

Most relationships crash and burn because of cruise control. They start out going great, enjoying all the new experiences they encounter with each other as each one brings a newness into the relationship. They share new places of interest, a different circle of friends, and different activities; these along with the exploration of the intimate side of our relationship are the things that keep our mind wonder whats next? If you ever drive on a winding road in the mountains your mind is more apt to be alert and watchful because you never know what is around the next curve or over the next hill. However, drive on the flatlands where there is nothing but straight road for miles and you could be nodding in fifteen minutes. When our mind doesn't experience something fresh, something new, it has a tendency to shift into cruise control and when this happens, we have a tendency to miss things or make mistakes.

In a relationship that doesn't see anything new happening couples often find themselves doing the same things over and over again. Tony Evans put it great when he said, " Sir, you get up from the same old bed, sit at the same old table, read the same old newspaper, and eat the same old breakfast. Then you go out the same old door, drive the same old car, down the same old road, to the same old job; and at the end of the day you go home and sit in the same old easy chair, watch the same old TV shows, and then go to the same old bed only to get up the next day to do it all over again. It is no wonder your wife calls you boring!"

This my friends is the average couples life. How about adding some spice to your relationship. Do something spontaneous, Go somewhere you have never gone before, do something you have never done before. Get a sitter and grab a honeymoon suite around the block, go there ahead of time men and have some flowers and candles sitting around the garden tub. Spice up your sex life as well. People walk out of movies that are boring and they do the same with relationships.

My son took my advice with his girlfriend. He went to a quiet section of a boardwalk in a quaint waterside community and set up a table with two chairs, table cloth and a candle. When he arrived with his girlfriend he had one of his friends pretend to be a waiter and serve them the food he had prepared ahead of time. Talk about scoring brownie points!

Another guy I know who was not paying much attention to his wife, took my advice and thought of something out of the ordinary to do for mothers day, he wrote on a sheet, "I love You, Happy Mothers Day". he then hoisted it up the flag pole in front of his house for all to see, including her when she came home.

I enjoy pretending to see my wife for the first time in a store and then begin to ask her out on a date in front of everyone. "Excuse me miss, I have never seen someone as beautiful as you are, would you do me the honor of having lunch with me this afternoon?

If you want to keep the fire burning, you have to keep throwing logs on the fire, putting a relationship on cruise control is a sure fire way of having it run off the road and remember this; People get bored of the same old thing for dinner ever day, After a while don't be surprised if you find them eating at someone else's table, if you know what I mean.