Is This Relationship Love or Infatuation?
Not All Relationships Are Built on Love. Infatuation Can Be Misguiding
Many relationships are friendships in disguise. Friendships between those of the opposite sex are often mistaken for love instead of the strong sexual attraction that it actually is.
Understanding the differences between love and infatuation, can save you from entering into a marriage that would end in divorce, especially if there are children involved.
Recognize the differences between love and infatuation that is based on strong sexual feelings. Until you are absolutely sure you are truly in love, do not take this relationship any further..
1. When he asks you for a date do you get overly excited? Do you feel your heart beat faster? Are you anxious to get into bed with him? Chances are this relationship is not love but an infatuation or lust..
2, If you engage in passionate sex, do you get up immediately afterward, dress and find conversation lacking? This relationship is based on a sex or infatuation, not on love.
3. Do you enjoy being with each even if you only go for a walk? Does holding hands as you stroll through the park or mall make you happy? Do you each envision a future together? Are you satisfied to have a cup of coffee at a nearby diner and share a slice of cake knowing his finances are limited? If you said yes to any or all of the above then you both are in love.
4. If you have dated for a while and enjoy being together, without engaging in sex. If you explained you want to wait until marriage and he understands and does not insist, you are in a loving relationship filled with compassion and understanding. Marriage is in the cards!
5. When you have had long and loving relationship and headed for the alter and he suddenly becomes seriously ill and needs an immediate kidney transplant would you offer him yours if it matched or would rethink about marriage and a life of taking care of him and break the engagement? Is it true and lasting love you felt or did the idea of marriage intrigue you?
Life is full of surprises. Some are good and some bad. Marriage is not to be taken lightly. My parents were married for over 70 years. She was 16 when she got married. They had their financial troubles, life was not always good between them, but they never thought of leaving.
Marriage was, at that time, a life long commitment. There was no doubt about it. They never gave divorce a thought. They raised two children, weathered the ups and downs of the depression. They argued and disagreed on many matters, but they worked it out and remained together until they died. They kept to their marriage vows that said, "until death do us part'.
Source: A lifetime of living and my own thoughts
Published by Sondra C
Brooklyn born Sondra Crane is a youthful looking and acting senior. She began writing as a child and never stopped. Her blog, "Along Life's Path" includes life as it was then and a glimpse into her thoughts... View profile
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23 Comments
Post a CommentGreat advice here.
Good advice to pass on to my daughters.
Well done and good advice.
The kidney thing is a deal breaker! Excellent insights.
This is beautifully written. Enjoyed the read. :)
Great work, lots of insights.
I still cannot post comments even though I am logged in -- UGH!! Great article. : )
Well written, wisdom filled article. Bravo, standing Bravo!
With any relationship there is a lot of give and take. Thanks for this excellent writing Sondra.
Even love has to be worked at, which is why we have so many divorces these days. One or both parties think that their feelings and what they want or need is all that is important. That couldn't be more wrong.