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Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?

Not All Relationships End in Marriage

Sondra C
Is Your Relationship Worth Saving? Relationships that are doomed from the start are those that are built only on lust. Lasting relationships should start slowly on a solid foundation built on honesty, trust, and love.

Relationships that result in marriage, a white picket fence and a house full of children grow out of trust. A relationship built on deceit and lust will end as soon as the sexual attraction has been satisfied. Not all relationships are worth saving.

Healthy relationships grow strong through nurturing and having common interests.These are worth saving. Honesty and sincerity are the glue that binds a relationship and keeps it growing.

In time, sex alone is not enough to keep two together. The lack of common interests melts the glue and they break up. The relationship becomes shallow and is not worth saving.

When to Breakup a Relationship?

Once you no longer rush to the door in anticipation of his visit and the thrill of hopping into bed with him no longer excites you, it is a signal to move on. Heed the warning before he stops coming. Blaming yourself for the breakup always hurts more. Decide to make the move and do not hesitate. Walk away!

Do You Share Similar Interests?

If you no longer share same interests, friends or goals for a future, you can rightly assume that your relationship is over. Make the first move. Do not allow the shallow relationship to linger. Mr. Right might be around the corner waiting. If you do not make the break you may never find him.

Make a Decision and Keep To It

Keeping a flame burning will not rekindle a dead relationship. Face it and look for another. This relationship is over. Time to bury it and move on!

Reasons for Breaking Up the Relationship

1. If you want to get married and start a family but he wants to remain single it is time to breakup. Do not attempt to change his mind.

2. Think about the future. Does your present relationship fill your need to share a lifetime with him? Do you have same or similar goals? Do you argue or fight incessantly ? Do you feel he is suffocating you? If so then this relationship is not worth saving. In fact, it has already died! Admit it.

3. Look at him in a new light. Do you feel deeply in love or is it simply a physical attraction? Do you agree on how to raise children or are his methods old fashioned and include spanking.

Think about your present relationship. Does it have room to grow in a positive direction or is he demanding and set on doing things his way or no way? Do you have similar goals for a future together? Does he want to live in the big city and you want to make a life in the country and raise horses?

If any or all of these questions make you think twice then stop and move on. It appears that this relationship is not worth saving. The time to make a life time decision is before you get married and not after the marriage.

Source: Based on my own lifetime thoughts and experiences

Published by Sondra C

Brooklyn born Sondra Crane is a youthful looking and acting senior. She began writing as a child and never stopped. Her blog, "Along Life's Path" includes life as it was then and a glimpse into her thoughts...  View profile

Relationships that have room to grow, and lean towards making each other happy, are relationships that are worth saving by working out small problems that turn up.

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  • Carrie Matilda11/7/2010

    wise advice. I loved your article, too, Sondra.

  • Abby Willow11/6/2010

    Great article- it made me realize how strong my relationship really is. We built ours on trust, which is essential, and understanding, and certainly patience.

  • Bridgitte Williams11/5/2010

    I loved this article, well done. :-) The most important question to ask yourself is "Does this relationship make me happy?" Excellent writing. Happy holidays to you and your family from me and mine. ps...I love Publix products, their salad dressings, low fat cottage cheese and pizza rolss are yummy and save me money. I am so sorry you do not like them but, I do!!! :-)

  • leroy coffie11/3/2010

    great wisdom

  • Gayle Crabtree11/2/2010

    I've been happily married for 23 years and feel that your article is on target. If there's even a hint of abuse it's time to walk. There's no saving a one-sided arrangement.

  • Sandy James10/29/2010

    Relationships aren't always easy to maintain but they're worth it. Nice article.

  • Memmay Moore10/29/2010

    Great question...You should have a talk show.

  • Lorraine Yapps Cohen10/28/2010

    Sondra, you need to host a radio talk show and share your wisdom with the world. AC is fine, but your sage advice should get out to more people.

  • rita collum hennis10/28/2010

    well Sondra,I am not in a relationship,and have not been,in a long time.And I am the one that did the breaking up,because I seen that our relationship was not going any where,thank you for this story,It was very well done.and maybe it will be read by someone that need help in knowing what to do. I love your articles,they are always full of great information.THANKS

  • rita collum hennis10/28/2010

    well Sondra,I am not in a relationship,and have not been,in a long time.And I am the one that did the breaking up,because I seen that our relationship was not going any where,thank you for this story,It was very well done.and maybe it will be read by someone that need help in knowing what to do. I love your articles,they are always full of great information.THANKS

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