Is it Right for Christians to Date? How Far is Too Far when Courting or Dating?
How Else Can You Meet Your Soul Mate?
Now the Bible does clearly state no sex before marriage or more specifically sex being permitted only within the marriage bond (I Corinthians 7:2). Something most of us have had a problem following, including myself.
"The foundation has already been laid. No sex before marriage (Ephesians 5:3), treat any lady with the same respect you would your sister and mother (1 Timothy 5:1-2), and keep your relationship with the Father first (Matthew 22:37)," states Logan from Charlotte, N.C.
That being said I can't seem to find anything written declaring that dating is wrong for Christians to do. I mean maybe I missed those particular verses, but as far as I could find there is nothing stating dating is wrong.
"Truth be told there is no biblical model for dating. So to answer your first question is yes it is ok for christians to date. However you must set the ground rules before you began dating," says Jeremie Nesmith of Jacksonville, Fla.
I also couldnt find any examples of dating going on in the bible either. But dating or courting as ya gramdma used to call it, is the getting to know each other stage. Dating is how you find out if you are compatible?
"The bottom line is anything that will lead to you getting all HOT and BOTHERED should not be done," states Shelley David Wright of New Orleans, La.
Personally I think the problem is too many people mix up dating and sex. The two aren't necessarily one and the same. Even if one is often a goal to the other for many!
"The word of God declares that the man that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and receiveth favor from the Lord," replies Adam Turnage of Washington D.C. "People need a vehicle and a format to determine what we've found, don't we? We need a period of time to establish levels of intimacy. And there are many levels of intimacy in which there is no exchange of body fluids."
The persons who usually say this to singles and the youth are usually married. It is much easier to tell folks to wait till they are married when you are married and have a healthy sex life. I could never get past that point personally at a teen and young adult. When I decided to take the conversation further and asked them how they got to know their helpmate? Or ask them were they virgins when they got married, they usually deverted the conversation else where.
My purpose for this article was to get people talking. I don't think we do ourselves or our youth any justice by staying away from topics like this. I would really like to hear what everyone out there has to say on the subject!
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Post a CommentJohn 6:32 (NIV) says "Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free" . We only need to tell ourselves and accept the hard truth. Christianity is a lifestyle of high standard and there's a laid down principle for everything. God had given his prescription for marriage and we should not voilate it to soothe ourselves out of His will. To me, dating is not adviceable for christians cos it leads to sexual immorality. To avoid fornication, the Bible recommends marriage, but for unmarried, its says we should flee from sexual immorality. Jesus did not teach on dating, in old testament I have read of dating. Lets fear God and keep His commandments.
7 (GWV) Young women of Jerusalem, swear to me by the gazelles or by the does in the field that you will not awaken love or arouse love before its proper time.
(KJ21) I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up nor awake my love till he please.
So. 2:7
Some times we just trouble ourselves with needles priorities. If im not gona have sex with my girl freind, what am i gona do with her that I cannot do should she not be my girl freind? we should not fool ourselves, God says: "flee youthful lusts"
I agree 100% with you Autumn! Thanx for checking out the article and for ya comment!
It is hard to remain pure until marriage but not impossible. You need to be wise and avoid certain situations. If you are always alone together in his or her house or apartment, you are asking for trouble.
It is hard to remain pure until marriage but not impossible. You need to be wise and avoid certain situations. If you are always alone together in his or her house or apartment, you are asking for trouble.
I agree Marilyn
It is a challenging subject because it is not easy to stay pure. I think this is especially true with today's culture.
Thank you very much Jack Wellman for your feedback, I do agree we have gotten away from speaking up on values, biblical principles and morals because it's not always the most popular thing!
Dating for Christians, yes, is okay, but to be unequally yoked with non-believers is. Thanks for speaking up for values and principles and morals that are found only in the Bible and are for our best interests. Nicely done AJ.
Thank you for sharing April, especially since there are alot of people who think being a virgin until you are married is an outdated concept and doesn't existm anymore. Thanks for showing it still does. And yes I agree we need to teach our children, so there can be change starting with the next generation