Is This Your Soul Mate?

You've gotten to know this person that you love to spend time with. You've become great friends and can talk about anything and everything. You find yourself thinking of this person all the time, and you start to wonder if maybe this person is no longer just a good friend, but something more. You begin to wonder if maybe this person is your soul mate. So how can you tell?

That's a good question. People are different. They act, think, live, and love differently. To happen upon a person that seems to be such a great match for you isn't something that happens often in life, hence one of the reasons for so many divorces. A person marries someone that they don't really know. Sure, they know a name, a favorite color or favorite food perhaps, but they don't truly know the person deep inside. So they marry and live with someone they don't know and when it ends, they are often left wondering what happened.

Soul mates love deeply, without condemning for past or present failures or mistakes, without judging. A soul mate is the person that completes you, a person that you cannot imagine your life with her or him, a person that thinks and feels on many levels in the same way you do. A soul mate is the person that truly seems a part of you, down the the very core of your being. It's been said that a soul mate is the extension of oneself.

Finding your soul mate is about much more than obtaining sexual gratification. It's about an intimacy that goes far beyond sex and so much deeper in emotions and feelings. A soul mate is someone that totally understands you, even when you think you are beyond understanding about some things. A soul mate hears not only what you say but more importantly, they hear what you don't say.

A person that mistreats you, is hateful and rude to you, disrespectful to you, who doesn't care about your feelings is not probably not your soul mate. A soul mate is the one that loves you more deeply than anyone except God, on so many levels, that it's almost impossible to comprehend the magnitude of the love and compassion they have for you. A person that is not good to you probably is not your soul mate.

When asking yourself, is this person my soul mate, ask yourself: Is this the person or kind of person that I want to spend my life with? Is this the person or kind of person that I deserve? Does this person truly love and care for me and do they complete me? Can anyone possibly love and care for me more than this person does? Do I want this person for who they are or just how they look?

Only you can truly determine if someone is your soul mate. Don't settle for someone who isn't everything you want and need. Good things come to those that wait. And at the same time, don't overlook someone because they don't fit your idea of how a person should look. Looks fade, the inside stays.