Is Your Status Essential for Staying Out of the Friend's Zone?

Let's define your social status positions relating to dating and attraction. You can either see yourself as having higher status, lower status, or equal status. If you find yourself in the friend's zone often chances are the person you were interested in, put you below them during your first interaction. If you find yourself eventually ending up as just friends, your status was most likely lowered the longer your interaction went on.

That leaves us with the last one, higher status. I'm going to bet that if you constantly feel you have higher status than those you are attracted to, you are never in the friend's zone. In fact you find yourself putting others there often.

During my youth I went for the hottest women I could find and I always felt they were more attractive than me. It only stands to reason then I gave my status up to them, hoping for approval. I would be so concerned with getting them to like me that kissing them, was the furthest thought on my mind. I even feared having to make a move on them because I felt they must be much more experienced. And I would have to live up to all those before me and that scared me.

And how do attractive people respond when we fear or avoid attempting to kiss them? They either feel rejected or they feel your confidence is just not strong enough for them.

If you have never tried to kiss someone because you felt they were more attractive you have only set yourself up to being just friends. I'm not suggesting you blatantly attempt to kiss those you are attracted to, there's so much more to it. I merely suggesting your status, your self esteem, and your confidence are the pillars of attraction. And equal or higher status relies on confidence and self worth. Everything is connected.

I have a theory. It's about how "cool" people tend to have many choices in who they date and are considered to be attractive, whether or not their physical characteristics are appealing. Cool people are also always seen as having high status and it is because of this path:
Confidence -> Self Esteem -> Indifferent to an Outcome -> Fearless -> Being Cool.

I firmly believe that any man or woman, that can complete that path even in the smallest way, will find themselves not ever worrying about being in the friend's zone. I also firmly believe that any woman or man, that increase the strength of each of those segments, will find their status rises accordingly. And at this point in your life it becomes clear to you how your status did determine whether or not the friend's zone was your home away from home.