Is Your Therapist Wasting Your Time?

As help-inducing as it may seem, sometimes a trip to the therapist can be as stressful as it is helpful. Many people do not know what to expect, and therefore do not know what goals to set for themselves in therapy.

It is always important to go to each therapy session with an agenda. If it helps, take a list of stressors with you to the therapist. That way, if you feel yourself fumbling for fodder, you can simply refer to it or even hand it over to your therapist.

As a veteran counselor, I can tell you that so many people come in and then get stuck and don't know what to talk about in their therapy sessions. If a client comes in with a list it shows me right away where I need to focus in order to be a better therapist for the client and it takes some weight off of both of us.

Another helpful hint is to just be yourself and be honest. Although you might feel embarrassed about something that is bothering you, chances are, your therapist has heard it before and will be able to help you. If you come in and lie about what is really bothering you then coming to therapy will be pointless. You will leave just as frustrated as when you came in. You do not have to put on a face for your therapist. Be yourself.

Finally, trust your instincts. If you go to a therapist and you leave feeling really upset and uncomfortable, then you probably aren't going to the right therapist. Some people feel that they have to pick one therapist and stick with them even if they feel unhappy with their methods. If you don't like the style that your counselor is using and you feel that you cannot mention this to them, then do not feel guilty about looking around for a new therapist. If you can, listen to your friends. Often a friend will be able to recommend a great counselor based on their personal experience. Check them out. But remember, just because that therapist worked for them does not mean they will be a good match for you.

Although finding a good therapist can seem to be a daunting task, the end result can be extremely rewarding. Be picky, and don't settle for sub-par help. You should be leaving your therapy sessions with positive feedback and suggestions for moving forward in your life. Always remember, you deserve the best.