Is the Total Package Simply an Illusion?

The private lives of celebrities have recently called to mind a very important question when it comes to relationships "Is the Total Package Simply an Illusion?" The total package is a combination of finding the ideals in education level, prestige, beauty and extraordinary qualities in one person. It is the underline message that one person has it all according to the object of their desires qualities, standards and requirements list. It is what ideals mates are made of and what society calls Mr. or Mrs. Right. The problem is when Mr. or Mrs. Right is left in the cold finding out their mate is unfaithful. This leaves a person scratching their heads wondering what happened to the picture perfect moments of the past.

The psychological affects of infidelity by no means is a warranted outcome for all the parties involved. However, this is an unfortunate reality and number one topic of discussion on headline news, blogs and day to day conversations around the world. Fame and fortune do not elude people of the challenges of love and how the human desire to try something different leads to the trouble that usually ends in heartbreak and disappointment. The storybook relationships that are taught to us as young children are so unrealistic and out of touch with reality that when someone suddenly performs out of specification the total package becomes an illusion.

The total package may not be simply an illusion but more of a gradual decline in desire from an overactive appetite that involves a person with an ego in overdrive that needs to be stroked at every instant. How many times has someone said, "You have changed or you are not as great at x, y and z as you used to be?" These questions whether fair or not are often highlighted as some of the reasons people decide to be unfaithful. In this day and age, it is not simply men choosing to step outside of the commitment lines but women although not as highly publicized are exploring this option as well.

Infidelity is never something that comes with a lot of solid reasoning and does not always appear foreshadowing even in hindsight. It is time to face the music no one is perfect and commitment is an individual's choice and not something predicated on the ideal of either person being what is considered a total package. It does not matter if it is Tiger Woods, Jessie James or Wealthy Housewives choosing to be unfaithful; in the end we are all just ordinary people in the quest to sustain unconditional love. The final question is, "Does everyone know and understand what it takes to hold on to love past the infatuation phase and when the total package person is no longer as alluring as before?" Overall, variety may be the spice of life but even the enticement of many things may never be completely satisfying.