Keys to Your Wife Being More Intimate
Your Wife Won't Have a Problem Being Intimate If She Feels Loved
Wives must feel loved and appreciated
Men can take for granted the relationship they have with their wives. We sometimes fail to meet their needs. They must feel loved and appreciated. Its not enough to just show them you love them nor is it enough to say it. You must do both. Tell your wife the things she does is very much appreciated as well as show her. Don't wait for birthdays and Valentines Day to show her.
Listen to your wife and talk to her
Communication is the first thing to go when a marriage starts to breakdown. Men need to listen to their wives. Lots of times they just want to talk about anything and for you to listen to them. If she knows your listening this goes a long way. Listening is one of the most important aspects of communication.
Do what she asks you to do
Little things she asks you do like taking out the trash means so much to her. Its not hard and its the least you can do. If she always has to remind you to do these things it can piss her off. You may think these things are not a big thing to her but they means so much. It also proves some of my first point to make her feel appreciated. Doing these things she asks lets her know you really do care. If you know something means a lot to her do it.
Volunteer to help her
Sometimes she would like to hear you say I will put the kids to bed tonight or I will do the dishes. Its the small things that get her attention. If you never help her she will feel you don't care. She would like to know you are in her corner.
Let her initiate sex sometimes
When she feels loved and respected she will be the one to initiate sex. She will respond in love as she feels loved. It very natural for her to be that way. Just as it is natural for you to be the way you are. Just keep this in mind that she shows her love in responding sexually. So if you make her feel loved you will not have a problem.
If you want your married sex life to be full remember these keys to getting your wife to give you sex.
Published by Timothy Scheiman
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Post a CommentWhen we got married, after two years I quit qork to return to college to finish my degree. I had saved money for school before we met. We used my savings for school and rent. I took 15 - 18 semester hrs spring, summer & fall. I cleaned, did laundry & cooked dinner. She worked 35 hrs/wk. All she could do is piss & moan about me not doinf enough. Now I work 60 - 70 hrs/wk in my own bus and support us. Still no sex. What B/S.
(continued from previous post)they are either 1) trying to manipulate you into doing whatever her compliant-d'jour is or 2) covering for the fact she was never really attracted to you. Women without some hidden agenda have the same sexual appetites as men and it nothing to do with 'emotional'. What a lod of crap. Unless you treat them badly, they will want to have sex with you IF they find you attractive. My wife of 38 years told me 7 years into our marriage that she could 'take or leave sex'. And that is how its been.
B/S, if what you write is true, how come I have no problem getting sex from women who are not my wife while my wife is sexlees as a wet mop. I don't do chores for the other women, and some of them are married. I'm not good looking either, there is simply a physical attraction that can't be ignored. Most women marry for security. In the pursuit, sex is plentiful. After, the ceremony and a couple of children, they've got what they want. You're screwed. Its all about physical attraction. If your wife isn;t having sex with you, its because she isn't attracted to you. DO NOT buy into that 'emotional' B/S. I'm thinking right now about a woman I've often had and there isn't a damn thing emotional about it. We find each other sexually attractive and know exactly what each other likes. Pure physical attraction - either its there or it isn't. These women are just making up B/S to 1) get you to manipulate you by making you believe that there is so
(continued) And you guys are already complaining about doing chores, so jobs and chores aren't fun, right? That's the way your wives will feel about sex if you keep pushing the issue. There is a very real condition called sexual aversion, and this is one of the ways it is created.
From a woman's point of view...listen to the article. It WILL work. Just as you want your wife to willingly and lovingly give you sex, your wife wants you to willingly and lovingly help her with the house and YOUR children.
Thank you for this article! My husband stumbled upon it when he was searching for ways to make me want to have sex more often. We only have it every *gasp* two or three days. I am a mother of 4 children, I work full time from home, I'm a full time nursing student and I'm just plain EXHAUSTED. When I hit the bed, I want to fall asleep immediately.
To the husbands making comments about the woman "withholding sex" because she "doesn't get what she wants," it's not about what she wants, it's about what she DESERVES. Marriage is a partnership, and husbands should do just as much cooking, cleaning, household chores and child rearing as wives do. It's not about "punishing" husbands because they don't help. At least it's not for me or for any of my girlfriends. Trust me, a man who lays around like a slob and does nothing while the wife carries the whole burden of the house and kids is NOT sexy, no matter how physically attractive he may be. Women begin to resent their husbands after years of
Or she's just not into you. I'm pretty sure that's what's up with my wife. If you are not into somebody, you just are, nothing more or less. If I was Justin Timberlake, she would be all over me. Life sucks!!
Like Bill, I do the cooking a high % of the time cleaning is more of a shared chore with my kids and me while the wife sits on the computer or on the phone... I do my own laundry and wind up doing the other laundry once the mountain of dirty clothes reaches 5 feet or so... Let her initiate? That's a laugh... That would mean she would have to take initiative at something other than lighting a cigarette and drinking coffee... besides it seems she enjoys using her creativity to come up with more excuses as to why she isn't in the mood...
I find offensive the term "she gives sex"... like sex is something a woman gives and man takes... sex is something wonderful that both parties give of each other...
The fact so many women withhold sex and still expect the husband to remain faithful simply defies logic...
Bill, in most cases being attentive to the woman and her needs is usually all it takes. In your case however you wife seems to have fallen out of love with you. If she is giving you the cold shoulder it won't be long she will be looking other directions. Marriage counseling may be in order if you cannot come to the root of the problem.
For some women its biological. After having a baby, a womans hormones can be all messed up for up to 2 years. Sex isn't everything.
I agree with Bob. I do 90% of the laundry cook the kids meals have the kids (5,11,14 Boys) help with the dishes and have a weekly house keeper & my wife is still cold in the bedroom and in general conversations doesn't seem excited or glad to hear from me when I call to tell her what is going on in my day or want the intimacy of holding hands in the mall or other events. Is this a life change due to age (38) or something else?