Lack of Communication in a Marriage

What if I told you that 86% of all marriages ended with the former spouse saying that there was a lack of communication between the spouses and they couldn't find a solid road to work on? We use communication for everything that we do both with gestures and body movement. Communication has been as far back as the cave man days when they communicated by drawing pictures on walls. Communication is everything in a marriage and without it, it will most likely fail.

So, how do you get the communication back into your marriage? I am neither an expert nor do I pretend to be one but I am married and I have studied everything that I could find on making a marriage last and have used these techniques to prove its point. The majority of the people reading this is probably wondering why they should listen to me; I am a communicator and my marriage is working and I have helped others to make their marriage work. Choosing to read this article is only the beginning to a life long journey of communication between one person to another or from one spouse to another.

Small talk and communicating in your marriage

Small talk is a part of marriage but it does not have to stop there. We can dig deeper into the conversation and discover new boundaries that we didn't know existed.

We make small talk on a daily basis by just saying hi to one person as we see them going down the street. We use small talk as a way to communicate without digging into another person's personal like. Small talk often happens in a marriage after two people are use to seeing one another but in the essence of everything small talk shouldn't be the end of the daily discussion in a marriage.

Going beyond the small talk to communicate with your spouse

Instead of making small talk, dig deeper and see what you can find. After 60 years of marriage my grandmother says that she is still finding out something new about my grandfather on a daily basis. Everyone likes their privacy but we also like to talk about ourselves. Don't quit after the small talk. Instead of just saying hi to your spouse when he comes in from work ask him how his day was and play into what he is saying. For instance; if your spouse comes in and you ask how his day at work was and he initially says it was fine but then goes on to tell you how Jim Bob made the pop machine stop working by kicking the machine when it wouldn't take his money you could feed into this by stating your concern for the other workers and how he should have asked someone for another dollar to replace the one that the pop machine wouldn't take.

Small talk should never be the end of the communication between spouses. When we find ourselves not being able to communicate with one another we will soon find ourselves wondering if this is all that there is to marriage and it doesn't have to be this way.