Ladies, If You're Dating, You Need a Gay Best Friend

After slaving over the computer eight hours at the job, you come home to an empty yet cozy apartment determined to spend the same amount of time doing another type of work; but this time the motivation is a bit more personal-with commitment and equal persistence-you scour online personal ads on various dating sites for a decent date. You're not looking for marriage, just a connection and after numerous hours hovering over your mouse pad and goblets of wine, you find a man who appears debonair, mysterious and has all his teeth (at least according to his photo). You make contact and lure him with your wit, your sex appeal and your shared interest in rock climbing-only yours is real. Your initial call strikes up all sorts of butterflies and you commit to a date. And on that fateful Friday night, while wearing that hot little number you've been saving for a man just like this, he shows up-looking better than his photo which is a huge letdown only because the date ends failing miserably and at this point there's only one question on your mind; why?

Life's experience has taught you many things, one of which is you might never understand the true dynamic of what makes a successful date. 50% your part and 50% his makes it impossible to pinpoint who's at fault, but you're a big girl and you don't need a play by play-this isn't a football game; this is dating life. And as much as you want to suck it up, and get onto the next one, something is nagging at you. Where you too dominating the conversation? Was your perfume to feminine? Or was it just him? You can't take it much longer and you need to vent. Do you ring up your mother? Not a chance, she's too judgmental. What about your sister? She's got her own messy dating affairs to deal with. That only leave one person; your Gay BFF.

Whether you're going through a break up or a break down every woman needs the shoulder of a Gay Best Friend. Who did Elizabeth Hurley turn to when she and that naughty Hugh Grant split? It was her Gay, Elton John that helped her pick up the pieces. There's something magical about calling on your Gay-especially when it comes to dating affairs-maybe it's because your Gay will not be harsh or judgmental when it comes to telling you the truth. Gays are not in competition with you, so there will be no lying in the friendship. He won't try to sabotage you by saying your dating skills are all wrong or that you really need to work on your father issues before you go on another date-which was the exact advice your girlfriend might have said. And as opposed to your female coworker who hinted that the short key lime skirt you purchased along with the white go-go boots were not a good idea for a first date-your Gay will encourage your individuality and allow that kinky side of you to shine through.

Will a Gay ever reveal the bad side of the coin? Yes, they will do it in a loving way, a way that will be nonthreatening and get you to look at your behavior from an objective and loving way. Many times, they will soften the blow like informing you that you need to avoid alcohol on those first dates because you'll end up doing things you will later regret or learning how to be a better listener when on a first date.

Before you go on another date or even look through the personal, make sure you have one thing in your dating arsenal ready to go-your Gay BFF. Not only will he save you from bad dating decisions, he'll also be there to listen when a date goes bad. With a Gay best Friend around, you're dating life might never be the same.