Ladies, when a Man Offers You Things Should You Accept?

Many female daters fantasize about meeting a "knight in shining armor" type of guy who will satisfy their every whim and need. But when you actually meet a guy who is very generous about giving you things, it can be a little nerve wracking. What is he doing this for? Does he really like you or is he just prepping you for a "favor" he'll want later? Does he just live for the smile on your face, or is he doing it as some type of "right of passage." These are all things every woman should consider when thinking about accepting gifts from a new suitor.

What are His Intentions

The first question you have to ask yourself when a guy is offering you things is what are his intentions? You can usually get an idea of a man's intentions after a second date. On the first date, men (and women for that matter) are always on their best behavior. By the second or third date things slowly start to be revealed.

If a guy is constantly talking about what he owns and how much money he has it is safe to deduce that he puts a high value on materialistic things. So if he's buying you things that soon, it may be because he replaces emotional feelings with physical items. This guy can turn out to be the always absent husband who will always give you stuff, but never give you what you really want: love.

If the guy always gives you a gift along with a sexual comment or innuendo, he may be buying you things because he wants you to understand that he will want something in return, sooner than later. Some women will happily participate in this type of arrangement, but the long term potential of a relationship based on materialism and sex is weak.

The Value of the Gift

The next major consideration you should keep in mind is the value of the gift. A guy who gives you a small inexpensive trinket, such as a $50-$100 necklace or bracelet isn't out of the ordinary, but a man who buys you a $5,000 watch on your second or third date should send up some red flags. Remember, people don't usually make large gestures like that out of the kindness of their hearts. There is something in it for him later on down the line.

Can He Afford It

If you feel that a man is overstretching his financial limitations to buy gifts for you, it's probably not a good idea to accept gifts from him. Even though he might like making you happy in the short term, in the long term if your relationship continues he may grow to resent you because of his financial burdens.

Don't be blinded by the lure of being offered gifts by a new man in your life. There are more important things to think about other than material things, such as love, your morality, and other long term ramifications.